what should i do?

Question

i got in a fight with my son the other day and he kicked my *** i dont know how to make him respect me again, i caught him smoking weed and i tried to take it from him he was in front of his friends at the time and well he beat my ***, now whenever i try to tell him to do something he slaps me in the face and tells me to f*** off, i know he'll get in trouble with his mom but she wont be home for another 3 weeks(vacation) and if i try to call the cops he just punches me and rips the cord out the wall, now he cuts class and makes me stay in the basement. how do i get my sons respect back withought using a weapon or a belt?

Answer 1

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Boot Camps and Military Schools

Boot Camps
The term “Boot Camp” can mean anything from a real estate boot camp to a defiant teen boot camp. If you are reading this site you are evidently interested in finding help for a troubled adolescent. On television, like most everything on television, the boot camps produce immediate results. In the real world it takes a little more time to change behavior that a child has been cultivating for many years. It is only logical that long-term changes are going to take more time. The majority of the programs we work with are approximately one year in length. The one-year time frame, while not a magical number, seems to be about the average time it takes help a child make sufficient changes.

Military Boarding Schools
In the past, a “military school” was the term used to describe a place where kids went who couldn't seem to make it in a regular school setting. Today a military school is a privilege to attend and can only be accessed by students who have a desire to excel. The potential student must come with a good report card and references from their previous teachers. This is not an appropriate fit for a teen that is defiant and unruly. If the parents are able to convince the military school to take their child, and the child decides to act out, they could be expelled. When a child is asked to leave a military school there is no refund. This might be a substantial amount of money since most military schools require tuition paid for the semester in advance.

Wilderness Programs
The term “wilderness program” can refer to several types of programs. If you are seeking help for a defiant and out-of-control teen, a wilderness program uses behavior modification with a component of the program held outdoors.

Some placement agencies or educational consultants will send a child to a wilderness program before the child goes to a boarding school. They believe that if the child has a high-impact experience they might be more willing to settle down and focus on improving themselves in the new boarding school.

There are some well-established wilderness experience programs that are accident-free and have been around for many years. In contrast there are also some that have not been so safe and effective. It is good when looking into an outdoor program to ask specifically about any problems, accidents, or even deaths they might have had. Some states have increased the regulations associated with this type of placement to assure that the child will have adequate food, shelter, and overall safety while they are in the care of a school or program. However, it is the ultimate responsibility of the parent to verify the safety and track record of any potential placement option they are considering.

Wilderness Adventure Programs and Teen Summer Programs
These programs can refer to a program similar to the one described previously or it could be an option for someone looking to give a well-behaved teen an experience in the outdoors. If it is a summer adventure for a well-behaved teen they typically won't want a defiant teen to come along. The other problem is that an adolescent with behavior problems generally will refuse to go anywhere the parent sends them even if it is for fun. The majority of teens we deal with are not going to benefit very much from a wilderness adventure.

Camps for Troubled Teens
While searching for help for defiant children the phrase “camp for troubled teen” can mean several things. The word “camp” would typically indicate that some kind of outdoor or wilderness experience is what is being sought. Camp could also mean the parent is looking for a boot camp for a defiant teen. In reality the best option may be a traditional boarding school or a residential treatment center. Sometimes parents searching for help are not exactly sure what they are looking for. We can help evaluate the needs of your child to determine what may be the best option for your family. We will help you explore your options whether you are looking for a boot camp, wilderness experience, or just some time away from your teen.

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We at Teen Options are here to help you find the most appropriate placement for your child; we have many schools to choose from. We also have a financial department to help you research what options will work best for you. Our programs boast in the neighborhood of an 85% success rate at helping troubled youth get straightened out. If your child has just started down the path of negative behavior, or if he or she has been on the wrong course for a long time, give us a call. Don't hesitate if your life is miserable trying to decide what to do. You are not alone. We can help.

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Adolescence is a confusing stage for teenagers, yet it’s confusing for parents as well. Your adolescents may be temperamental and mixed up. It’s definitely a time of change, yet as a parent how may you know if your teenager’s actions are normal or actually calls for your concern? What is normal?


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We discuss various parenting strategies to help discover your teen's real problems, suggest ideas on creating a better family structure, and provide information regarding Residential Treatment using the Behavior Modification Approach for your child. We have even provided instructions and a blank form for you to print so that you may write a Home Rules Contract for your family.

Check out our listing of recommended books on the Parent Resources page for more information on dealing with your troubled teen. In particular, parents considering putting their child on medication should make sure to check out the excellent new book by Dr. Lawrence Diller, Should I Medicate My Child?

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Brat Camp

The ABC series featuring brat camps has generated a lot of interest in wilderness style programs. The program presented on television followed several defiant youth as they dealt with issues and problems they were struggling with. The Brat Camp type of program falls under what may typically be classified as a wilderness style program. These programs are named such because the experience takes place in remote locations without any of the creature comforts that children of today take for granted. The Brat Camp series provided an opportunity for parents to see that they are not alone, that there are others who struggle dealing with the problems associated with a troubled teen, and that there is help.

The wilderness style program may or may not be the best option for your child, if you are looking for help give us a call we will explore some of the options that are available to you.

Boot Camps

Boot camps come in many shapes and types. If you are looking for a boot camp for a defiant child you have probably already discovered that. We work with camps that will take a defiant youth, enter them in a boot camp and follow the camp with a structured military style environment. The best results for these types of programs are accomplished when the child remains in the camp for about one year. Short-term boot camps are a wake-up call but don’t seem to produce long-lasting results. It is usually a waste of time and money to seek a short-term camp of less than a year.

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Answer 2

Stand up to him...Get your balls back. Obviously he needs help, call the cops on him and he will get sent to anger management. You dont want him beating his kids or wife do you? Do something dude! Your the parent.