What do you do when the person you like always seems to let you down and hurt you? Sure, we have a lot of good moments and he makes me happy a lot of times, but I don't know if it's worth the hurt. I feel like I should leave him out of love/respect for myself, but I still like him so much. It's going to hurt if I stay with him, but it's going to hurt if I leave him...what do I do??
2007-01-24 12:17:37 · 23 answers · asked by mmmmk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you just like him, then LEAVE him before you fall in love with him, the hurt could get worse, you can only help yourself when you are ready.
2007-01-24 12:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by Crystial 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you exactly what's going to happen.
Dispite replies advising you to leave now and save yourself the sorrow (which IS the move, by the way), you will not. You will ignore the good advice and stay.
You will continue to put up with his s**t for a long time, until you finally get fed up and and leave, but not before a lot of grief. Of course, you may get pregnant in the process of deciding to stay or leave, and then you'll be tied to him for life through the kid.
My wife & I talk about this from time to time. Except for the name, the story is the same. You aren't the 1st, and you won't be the last.
2007-01-24 12:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him tell him how you FEEL...if he KEEPS acting the same way that means he don't CARE so you should STOP WASTING your time on someone that doesn't CARE about the person" HE LOVE or has feeling for" there's a lot of people that might want to meet you but your taken right now so who knows you can find someone that is going to make you feel the way you want to be feeling.....and maybe if you leave him then he will KNOW what he is MISSING ....one more thing ,is he playing you..guys kind of don't care anymore when they are, so talk to him..GOOD LUCK
2007-01-24 12:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Yari love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is gonna sound silly but, make a list. Draw a line down a sheet of paper and write "pros" and "cons" on either side. On one side at the top write "stay" , turn it over and write "go" at the top. It should become clear once you write it out on paper
If not, think to yourself, if a sister or a girlfriend told you that her guy was treating her the way yours treats you, what would you tell her to do?
Good luck.
2007-01-24 12:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please respect yourself enough to leave Sweetie.
It sounds as though the bad times outweigh the good, and you certainly deserve a guy who will make you happy the majority of the time. But you'll never find him if you're stuck with this one.
If you're going to hurt, I think it's better to hurt because you dumped a guy who's bad for you, than to hurt because you're WITH a guy who's bad for you.
You deserve better.
2007-01-24 12:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, how has he let you down??
Sometimes relationships take a lot of work (from both sides) to work out... Eg my girl cheated on me once but we're still together, even though it was hard 4 me at the time.She really regretted it etc, but it took a lot of time, patience and hard work to make things right again... But in the end I am soo glad I am still with her today..We have a beautiful relationship and I wouldn't give it up that easily!
Give some more specific info if you can (/feel comfortable doing so) and I'll expand..
2007-01-24 12:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Pietzki 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should not even be considering someone like this. Please learn to pick guys better or your in for a rough life. There are plenty of nice guys out there. A little hurt now is better than a bunch of hurt always. Wisen up your worth better.
2007-01-24 12:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by thmsnbrgll 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I TOTALLY understand what you're saying. You're right; you really need to leave him. You don't deserve this; what did you do to get hurt...by his lack of consideration for you....I feel bad, I know just what you're going through. It's so very, very hard to leave, but pls. try to do it...for YOU. There really is someone better out there for you. All good luck.
2007-01-24 12:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Iseult 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave you are brainwashed by false love. You gotta go your waisting your time on this guy, the faster you leave the faster you can be single go have fun, then get a good man
2007-01-24 12:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to put yourself in the position where you have to count on him for important stuff. Either that, or leave, and you'll find it's not so bad once you get used to it, and after you get over missing him, you'll appreciate the lack of a constant headache.
2007-01-24 12:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋