how can i get it through to him? i've tried a few times but it ends up in rows and stuff.
tonight we had a really bad fight and i feel awful. it was over this guy and he found out i was seeing him and he went crazy! i feel really bad cause i said some pretty mean stuff but this is going to continue if he doesn't realize i'm not 6 anymore.
my mom died when i was 5 so i think it sort of frightens him that some day i'm going to be leaving him and he won't have anyone. though i'd never leave him. i'll always love him. so, i understand why he does this but i don't know what to say without it ending up with rows.
2007-01-24 12:13:57 · 5 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
16 is a hard age anyway, sorry you're having problems with your Dad. Do you have an aunt or an uncle from either side of the family that you can talk to? Maybe a pastor or a good friend of your dads. Explain to them what is happening and maybe they can talk to him. Was your dad upset because you were dating, in general, or just this particular guy? If it's not the guy, ask your dad at what age you are supposed to start dating. If it is the guy, maybe he's just trying to protect you from what he sees as a disaster waiting to happen.
I'm glad you realize that he may be afraid to loose you, and that may be motivating some of his actions. However, he's only looking out for you, wanting you to have the best life you can. Try to talk to him rationally, and don't be accusatory or defensive. Yelling doesn't allow you to listen to each other.
Good luck!
2007-01-24 12:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see, dads ( and mothers ) have the responsibility by nature to protect at all cost the precious life bestowed on them until you become of age , which you are not yet , so give him some slack allow him to be a father , because he loves you to a point that he would give his life for you if the situation would appear. His position is very natural , his uproar is because of frustration , think of where would you be if he wasn't there to protect you and give you what you need , he knows you are growing and probably a lovely young lady , and that's why his concern , his role is also the protector of your virtue ,and protect you from pain of the heart . He also knows what a young teenager has in mind ... raging hormones , did you know that a man peaks sexually at 18 and the woman much later in life ... and you can bet he has the experience of his youth , consequently his position about you dating , don't' fight with his responsibility , date this boy by phone , correspondence , or in view of family and friends , and in time he will loosen up the reigns.
2007-01-24 22:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by young old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just a stage that all teenage girls go through with their fathers..I know I did! It's just hard for them to see you as anything other than his little girl no matter how old you are. Dating is a touchy subject with fathers because NO boy is ever going to be good enough. He will lighten up eventually I'm sure..Next time you have a fight with him just try to remain calm without saying hurtful things. Being a teen isn't easy and raising one is just as hard!! Good Luck!
2007-01-24 20:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Winnie08_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, we just have the same situation, although i'm only 13.... sometimes, i even envy my friends coz they are allowed to do the things that most teenagers do, but, i just have to accept that cause, the reason why your dad does that is coz he loves you soooo much... well, you're luckier than me, my parents are super duper very, so, as in, strict!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-25 04:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sophiaaaaaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its because your dad loves you and cares for you and is trying to protect you from the things you can't see, he just wants whats best for you, wether you realize it or not
2007-01-24 21:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋