According to Wikihow, the following are things that can get someone to dump you: Start spending lots of time with her and let her know, she's won you over for good! Let her know she can easily get hold of you anytime, give her all your numbers and email adress, tell her you don't want to miss her call for anything! Buy her flowers (not expensive ones) and little gifts and when giving it to her, act GENUINE and say "I can't believe how lucky I am to be with someone like you". This is critical! Use those EXACT words.
If the two of you are going out, always ask her where she wants to go (most women hate deciding). Tell her very sweetly "We can do whatever you want to do". Keep nagging until she finally comes up with a destination/activity. Give her a massage without her asking for it and tell her "I want to keep my girl happy". Show up at her workplace and take her on a surprise lunch date. Is this true, ladies, or just baloney?
2007-01-24 12:01:18 · 17 answers · asked by Steve-O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on the girl.
If she loves you and wants to be with you this will make her all the more happy with you..
Just tell them what you want to happen
2007-01-24 12:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not true, I mean if you are doing this all the time then yes you will get on someone's last nerve! But this is what I feel. The time - you want to spend time but not too much. We need time to breath too. If you give her all your number and tell her you don't want to miss her calls for anything........well you will sound desperate. It's okay to give her all this info if you been with her for a while, but when you first meet is just too much too soon. Flowers are always sweet and it doesn't even matter if you pick them from the yard, we still will like it and would never get mad if you tell us that you can't believe how lucky you are to be with us. (just don't say it constantly). I do hate deciding so I will have to agree on that one. If I want to go somewhere specific I will tell you otherwise surpise me. A massage - anytime any place. Telling us you want to keep us happy is nice to hear but again........not constantly.....lunch at work is great too.....we love that. We always love for you to show and tell us how much you want to be with us but the key is not to over do it. The best advise I can give is to do the above mentioned things when you know your girl is feeling a little down. That will score you major points.
2007-01-24 20:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm...no...that's suffocating her. If you have the right person, you will know but if some girl waits you to "act" genuine and say stuff that's not true, she's not the one. Everything should happen in it's own time and that goes for both partners. You don't have to "start" by spending a lot of time with her because she will get used to it and complain when youd don't. I mean surprises, gifts and words are sweet but the are better when they come from the heart.
2007-01-24 20:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by A. Tarayana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who hates getting all the attention and caring?
if she is the type who prefers less attention and dumps you, she will regret it and miss it later.
all my friends with hubbies who do all this for them are living a happy life and are totally in love with each other, so it's not just me being against the idea that being around your loved one makes you lose them.
you have to see what works out for you as a couple
you will get better advice from the book men are from mars, women are from venus. the book gives hints to when your spouse will need some space.
if you are both adults and keep communicating with each other, respect each other , and love each other ,hopefully nothing will keep you from loving each other more. don't let a single article decide what women want, at least my friends and i aren't like what's mentioned in that article.
good luck !
2007-01-24 20:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by sweet tooth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it was me....I'd feel spooked. That's cuz its abit much. Some women like the man to make the decisions. I know I do. I like to feel protected and for my man to be strong. I think some women would also like to spend time with her girlfriends, not her lover all the time. And for him to say things like you don't want to miss her call for anything and all that other stuff you say. That sounds like a stalker....sorry, that would send me flying in the opposite direction!! A surprise lunch date or flowers are fine though, but its the other stuff that would scare me.
2007-01-24 20:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe everything you read...it really depends on the girl you are with and how she is wired. If you are that concerned about it - ask her as that is what the strongest relationships are made of - strong and open communication. If she isn't into all that charming behavior of yours then she is probably not the right one for you and if that is the case get out there and get looking...there are plenty of glas out there who would kill for such an attentive man!
2007-01-24 20:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by chick33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the other women, but if a guy asks me where *I* want to go, I have no problem deciding. Hockey game, horse track, or car race track.
If he acts like he's giving up his own identity to glom onto mine, I'll dump him faster than used toilet paper. If he's just really into me, then bring it on.
2007-01-24 20:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL ....this is all Bullshit , I love my BF to do this stuff lets me know he cares and loves me. who ever this wikihow guy is don't know his *** from a hole in the ground. Don't pay him no mind. Also you should do what you think makes your girl happy an not listen to everyone else. be yourself keep doing what your doing sounds like your doing a good job if she is still with you..
2007-01-24 20:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by texas_krystle_23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the girl. i have lots of friends who have relationships like that that work, but i hate it. some people just need space. like that song by Pink, "go away, give me a chance to miss you" so if you want to keep her maybe back off a little, if you want her to dump you do that!
2007-01-24 20:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of freakshow said that doing those things would ruin a relationship?
Doing those things are great (wouldn't you like it if someone did them for you?) - just don't do TOO MUCH, all the time. Spread it out a little.
2007-01-24 20:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋