2007-01-24 11:31:44 · 21 answers · asked by babykins 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
LAY DOWN THE LAW! Tell him that he will not be bringing that into your house and since you are nice enough to let him stay there he should respect you and your rules then call his parents!
2007-01-25 06:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by heather j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's only 14 years old, right? Well, first things first: Make sure it's his! Secondly, make sure your kids haven't discovered it already. Sometimes, you're a little too late.
Dealing with him...what are his parents like? Some don't mind that their child smokes weed. If they don't mind, then obviously there's an entirely different issue at hand.
Being young, I want to say "Let it be". But pot is a big issue. It's illegal. Contact his parents about it. Don't be angry or screaming at them; if they don't already know, it's not the greatest way for them to find out, hearing you scream like that. Talk to them calmly and sympathetically. I don't know the family situtation, but Aunts don't tend to be the disciplinarian. Leave that to the parents. You could maybe make a suggestion if you'd like, but it's likely not your place to punish him.
Lastly, make sure your children aren't punished for your nephew's lack of maturity...meaning don't forbid them from seeing one another, fearing your nephew is a bad influence. His parents will deal with it as best as they can...
If you aren't sure if the amount you found is the last of his "stash", keep a close eye on him and your children. Send him back home once you've talked to his parents, if you like. That is, if you can send him home early.
Good luck!
2007-01-24 19:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on how you feel about pot. I don't think it is such a big deal, but perhaps 14 is too young. Will gave the best answer. It is only here in America that pot is given such a bad rap.
Since he's only staying for a week, you shouldn't freak out. Just tell him you don't want him smoking in the house or around your children. Find out if his parents know. If they don't, encourage him to tell them. Getting upset or implying his parents will be upset will only cause him to hide more and probably try harder drugs.
Again, marijuana is No Big Deal. Certainly not as harmful as tobacco or alcohol.
2007-01-24 22:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by missmannah 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you live in a fairly repressive place. If you lived in Canada or Europe, most people would just tell your nephew to smoke pot or tobacco outside.
Where you are, though, maybe you should tell him you don't want smoking anywhere on your property. But why not just leave it at that?
It's not very reasonable to think your own kids are in any danger. Yes, you could talk it over with your nephew's mom and dad, but no doubt his smoking won't be news to them. As for whether to confiscate his pot, well, in the civilized world that's called stealing; just tell him to stash it away from your kids.
ps - It sounds like your other answerers need some basic education about marijuana.
2007-01-24 19:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by will_o_the_west 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would take the pot off of him tell him it is disgraceful and you will not stand for him smoking pot in your house.Tell him about the damage it can do to your brain. Then demonstrate by rolling a spliff and smoking it in front of him.
I am sure you will find that you will feel happier after this and of course he will have no pot left.
Seriously though he should be aware that it is not acceptable in your home and as a guest he must respect your wishes
2007-01-24 19:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by dont know much 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it were me, I'd take it to him and say, "What is this?" I'd let him squirm for a while. Then, I'd give him a talking to and ground him from whatever activities he might have been doing at your house on his own. I'd call my brother and tell him what I found and what my nephew said, which wouldn't go over easy since he's a police officer in the narcotics squad.
2007-01-24 20:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Explain to him that drugs are NOT tolerated in your house hold, find out if his parents know. You should also confiscate it from him. Also let your children know they should not dig through his things as an act of privacy. But you should set your expectations from him whilst he's there. His parents may have told him somethings but you need to reenforce yours.
2007-01-24 19:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the pot, tell his parents, and tell him not to smoke pot, or AT LEAST not at your house.
If he has no respect make him leave.
2007-01-24 19:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Zero tolerance. Flush the pot (preferrably in front of him), and send him back to his folks.
Or, call the cops and let THEM deal with him.
2007-01-24 19:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by BDZot 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU SHOULD STATE THAT THERE ARE RULES IN YOUR HOUSE AND POT IS NOT ALLOWED! YOU SHOULD ALSO TELL HIM THAT HE HAS A CHOICE- HE CAN TELL HIS PARENTS ABOUT HIS HABIT OR YOU WILL!
Just be glad that he will be going home after a week.
2007-01-24 20:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋