Why do people who have chosen to engage in homosexual sex...?

Question

Claim that it was not a choice.

By that logic I could claim it is not a choice when I eat meat because I like meat.

Answer 1

Ough; you KNOW you're gonna push some buttons on this one.
Having inclinations may not be chosen, but ACTING on those inclinations is a choice.
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Answer 2

Not to be rude, but your analogy makes no sense. Having sex is a choice, but being sexually attracted isn't.Nobody ever says that having homosexual sex isn't a choice. They say that being homosexual (as in being sexually attracted to a others of the same gender) isn't a choice. Thus, you don't choose to like or dislike meat, you just like it. You do choose to eat meat. You see what I'm saying.

Answer 3

I've tried to explain this concept to people before, so here we go again. A "choice" implies more than one option, hence a choice. So if homosexuality is a choice, heterosexuality must also be a choice, since a choice implies, "A or B." By your logic, I am choosing to have sex with women, when I could choose men. Do you understand now?

Answer 4

Because homosexuality is not a choice, it is the way you are born. It would be a choice if I decided "Hey I don't want to date boys anymore, I am going to pretend I'm straight and date women."

Basically it's just what we are naturally inclined to do, and therefore is not a choice.

So that would be as if you, who I am assuming are a straight women, decided that you no longer wanted to sleep with men, who you are attracted to, and sleep with women even though you have no desire to be with a woman.

You drink liquids because you have to, because if you do not you will not live. If your straight you sleep with the opposite sex because you are attracted to them, you can enjoy a consentual relationship with people of opposite sex. If your homosexual it is just the opposite, you do not derive pleasure from the opposite sex, but rather the same. There for deviating from that which you are inclined to love is a choice.

Obvisiously sex is a choice either way striaght or homosexual, you're simply confused with wording. What these people are talking about is actualy being homosexual not have homosexual sex.

Answer 5

It *is* a choice if you explicitly take action. I think the claim that many homosexuals have is that their orientation is not chosen. They are naturally inclined towards the same sex, rather than the opposite one. When they act on the impulse, it becomes a conscious choice. Before that, it is an impulse, inclination, perhaps inherited (that part is debated), but not chosen.

If you like meat, you can choose to eat it or not, but you do not choose to like it explicitly.

Answer 6

I believe they say that it is not a choice to BE homosexual. Having sex is always a choice for everybody. They are discussing their sexual orientation, not whether there is a choice involved in actually having sex.

Your argument makes no sense.

Following your argument, each time you eat meat you would have to choose to be oriented towards liking meat...

Answer 7

No, obviously food has nothing to do with sexuality.

And by your logic, you would be asserting that people choose to be straight.

Through the study of identical twins we now know, with almost no doubt, that homosexuality is largely genetically based. Over half of all identical twin pairs where one member is gay, the other is also gay. Compare this to less than 5% of regular siblings, and the evidence is very conclusive.

Homosexuality has been observed in almost every animal species.

Based on this, you are no better than a racist.

Answer 8

Was it your choice to like the taste of meat? It is the attraction to the same sex that is not chosen. I believe you are misunderstanding what they are saying.

Answer 9

Do you feel deeply dissatisfied when you eat vegetables? DOes it seem like your salad is missing something important, and that your life is a lie without it?

That's what heterosexual relationships feel like to most of the gay people I know (and that's not a few). There is a TON of physical evidence that homosexuality is for many people hard-wired in. They choose to be homosexual as much as you choose to be heterosexual. It is just the way they are.

Answer 10

Your logic is flawed in assuming that it IS a choice when it is not. Secondly, whatever you do with your own life, in your own bed, is your business and I don't tell you who to date or when to make love to someone or not. Nothing gives you the right to tell others how to conduct themselves, nor do you have the right to deny 2 consensual adults the right to love whomever they're going to love and deny them the right to EXPRESS that love. Not everybody shares your views of "morality", religion etc.

Ethics... nobody's really getting hurt when it's between 2 consenting adults in their own private world, so hauling out the bestiality, pedophile argument won't work (if you try) because those actually cause harm. What DOES cause harm, is this kind of attitude by people who deny other people rights based on this kind of thinking, to the point that they hate themselves, other people hate them and actually do physical harm.

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Answer 11

That's a new one for me - I have heard people say that their sexual preference isn't a choice but "programmed."

Engaging in sex - homosexual, heterosexual, whatever - is most certainly a choice. It is an action that we have conscious control over. (Rape excluded, of course.) Is sexual orientation a conscious choice? Some say yes, some say no. But that is a very different thing than engaging in a sexual act.