2007-01-24 11:05:34 · 22 answers · asked by iris b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Getting married has nothing to do with yer father.. it has to do with yer life & wife/husband IMO..
You wanna honor his memory.. show up at the grave site and place flowers.. leave it out of your wedding.. its 2 seprate things that have nothing to do with each other But thats just my opinion... (and if not get a name of a good divorce attny.. yer gonna need one soon)
2007-01-24 11:34:08 · answer #1 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 7⤋
Whether you're getting married in a church or otherwise, if you ask your officiant to make the explanation to your guests and give you a moment, you could make it part of your ceremony to light a candle in his memory. At the reception, lots of couples will have a memorial table set up where there are pictures of deceased loved ones. I would only put one pic of each person, however.
2007-01-24 12:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, congrats! I got married Oct 21st, and my brother being the male in the family closest to my dad was asked if it was okay for us to get married. Then on the day of the wedding, I took a Christian necklace that my dad used to wear, and had it wrapped around my wrist. The people that mattered to him and me saw me wearing it and knew what it was, and that I was honoring him. There are several unposed pictures from my wedding where you can see the necklace/bracelet on my wrist.
2007-01-24 12:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by cat14675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter in law lost her mom when she was a little over a year old. To honor her mother we took a pic of her and placed it in a silver frame. I made a piece to go behind it that had feathers sticking out all around the pic. We placed it on a table, right up next to where they were standing. It was really pretty. Everybody saw her mom up there and she was happy that her mom was part of the wedding. She really felt complete when we did this. It was nice. She still has the pic and the feathers around it. She bought a small shelf for the set up and it is right in their living room. Made me feel pretty good too. Lots of luck on your wedding.
2007-01-24 11:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Me2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you have to make this decision. My Mom passed away a few years ago, so I, too, was thinking about how to honor her. I decided to have a moment of silence during the ceremony to think about and honor her, and other family member who cannot physically be a part of such a special day.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
2007-01-24 11:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by jaye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance's father died ~16 years ago, and this is what we're doing: We picked an invitation wording that can include the deceased. It reads "Anthony xxx xxx, son of Alyson xxx xxx and the late LeRoy xxx xxx..." We're also having an empty chair at the ceremony and at the reception. Because both of us have alot of other deceased relatives, we're including a memorial ceremony in our wedding.
I've seen many tasteful options. Alot of people will tell you "This day is about celebrating, not mourning", but you know, a wedding is about celebrating love and life, and death, sadly, is a part of that. As long as no one will mistake your wedding ceremony for a funeral, it's okay.
2007-01-24 12:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by Alicia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you mustn't substitute ur date till u opt to. At your ceremony you may honor your father by ability of lights a candle, puting a rose on the place he could have sat. additionally on the marriage software you may positioned some thing like " even although they do no longer look to be with us right this moment they are lookin on from up above and positioned all the deceased human beings on the component of you. At dinner you may positioned a rose on the place he could have sat additionally.
2016-11-01 05:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could walk down the Isle to a song that reminds you of him (or maybe one of his favourite songs) You could get a sibling or an aunt or uncle to read a poem at the reception that is suitable. On the Order of service you could write on the bottom. In loving memory of "fathers name"
Either way I am sure he will be in everyones hearts. Best of luck.
2007-01-24 11:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by jenifajen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all the weddings I've been to, to honor a dead loved ones memory, they have these cool candles with the loved ones pic on them and with their name and birth and death dates, then they take a special time to light the candles for them and you can mention him in your programs.
2007-01-24 11:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after you are married and you walk out of the church for the first time as husband and wife, let some white doves go. They are a sign of pease, hope, and love. Congrats on the wedding and sorry to hear about your dad, I lost mine in July of 06'
2007-01-24 11:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are lighting a unity candle, have an extra candle there to represent your dad, when you and your fiance light it together (after you light your own) have the person who is marrying you anounce that it is in memory of your father. Good luck.
2007-01-24 11:35:44 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋