2007-01-24 11:02:08 · 20 answers · asked by Karen S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No. It could be very convenient - she could look after your kids for free, when no one else can :-).
Studies find that kids do better the closer they live to their maternal grandmother; and kids do worse the closer they live to their paternal grandmother. The maternal grandmother can be sure that the grandchild in front of her is hers genetically; but the paternal grandmother cannot (can't tell who the father is for certain).
2007-01-24 11:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by rage997_666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my dad when I was 8 and promised my mother that I would take care of her. Take care of her I did. I had a supportive family. when Mom became totally disabled, I was there with her. The last four years of her life were very difficult for all of us. She was invalid but I continued to take care of her. When I married, my husband took me, my 2 kids from a previous marriage, and my mother. He was and is the best any woman could possible ask for. To make a long story short....Mom died in my arms. All the strain and stress on my body and mind for those last four years were well worth it. I lost my mom, my best friend, and my baby. She was the greatest mother possible and I wouldn't change a thing if I could. I would do it all over again. Living close to ones mother is good. It gives you the opportunity to share your little family with the one that brought you into the world. The one that sacrificed her life to be your mom. Families should always stay close and love each other. Life is too short. I miss my mom more than anything but I had the chance to show her how much I loved her before she left this world. I have no regrets and no guilt. Love conquers all.
2007-01-24 20:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by freedomrings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's too crazy if you are close with your mom. However, you have to be careful that you aren't compromising your own family for the needs of your mom, or your and your moms relationship. You have to remember that your family must come first over your mom and the time that you spend with her, and especially your significant other needs to come before your mom. I know this from personal experience. My husband and I both live quite close to both sets of parents and there have been times that I have felt that he had put his mom before me, it is difficult sometimes, but I just make sure that he knows when I need time with just the two of us.
2007-01-24 19:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by K E Nodding 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very honored that my daughter and son-in-law have chosen to live just a few blocks from me. I see them almost every day and wouldn't have it any other way. They have often asked if I would come live with them but at this point, I'm able to live independently and want to do that as long as possible. However, it's such a comfort to know that when the time comes that I need help, I will be welcomed into their home. God is good!
2007-01-25 10:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I lived near my folks for the first 3 years and then I moved to the opposite coast and learned I could get along without her. Your immediate family is the one you made with your husband and child and you need to learn they are your priority now. No its not easy to do that switch that is why I am grateful for the transfer so far away I could not just check in or ask opinion of her. I did pretty darn good too ;-)
2007-01-24 19:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. It seems that wanting to care or be around your parents has become a bad thing. If more people cared for their parents, especially when they are older, society as a whole would benefit. If you live near your mom, she can participate in your kids' lives and both would benefit. I say go for it.
2007-01-24 19:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely positively not! You have the right to live where you want and if that is near your mom that is not a bad thing. It is great if you are close to your mom.
2007-01-25 06:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by Red Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not crazy. It's nice to live near your family, but unfortunately for some of us, we have to move further away for work purposes.Just remember to keep in touch regularly.
2007-01-24 19:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not crazy. Family's are so spread out today, to some it is strange. You are doing the right thing. Your Mom will thank You for it.
2007-01-24 19:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by nmd_elkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to live near your mom. She gets to see her grandchildren more often and your kids get to see her and have that close relationship with her and grandpa too.
Even if you don't live close to your mom, you can still have your mom visit you or you all can visit her, either way. But, right now, your family is your husband and kids. That's why you got married and now have kids....your family. (smile)
2007-01-24 19:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋