this is concerning Adultery and Marriage?

Question

it says in the bible that what God put together no one can dissolve and it also says that u can divorce when there is adultery...if there is adultery, u file for divorce and remarry, ur not in sin right? and also waht happenes to the person who commits adultery? also say that he/she did cheat, do u feel obligated to make it work? i've been in relationships, not marriage, that ended up with my bf cheating and i dont feel obligated to forgive since he didnt respect me enough to not hurt me...do you understand what i mean?

Answer 1

If someone cheats on you, to hell with them, it is a deal breaker, and should not be forgiven. Once a cheat, always a cheat. Being sexually exclusive is the BARE MINIMUM that you can expect of a person, there are tons of other things also, like keeping a job, not hitting you, doing their share around the house, but my God, if they cannot even remain monogamous, kick them to the curb. Life is too short, and there are plenty of good men/women out there who WILL be faithful, just because they are good people, it is not like it is a sacrifice.

Answer 2

Ok, I think I understand what your saying. First of all, you're right, what God has put together, let no man put assunder. It says in Matthew 19: 3-9 that adultery is the only reason why you should divorce, but I do think you should try and forgive the louse and make your marriage work. That would take counsel with your preacher and God's grace to forgive such hurt and pain. I think Jesus was saying if he/she continues to cheat and you try to save your marriage, then that is the only reason to divorce. BUT, if you marry someone who is divorced, you are committing adultery. Too often, people don't want to work on their marriages and will divorce at the drop of a hat, think of all the couples in Hollywood who say 'oh we don't get along" anymore. When you say "I Do", you did so that's all I'm gonna say on that issue.
However, since you're not married to your boyfriend, if he's cheated on you, and you just can't forgive him and he has no intention on remaining faithful, then you are wise to let him go and wait for the one that God has picked out for you. You didn't say if you were having a sexual relationship with this boyfriend, but if you were you might want to get tested. I hope this helped you.

Answer 3

You are not married to technically adultery can never take place. What the book also says (and few people quote) 'If you look upon a woman and have passion for her then you have committed adultery in your heart'.

Forgiveness is not an obligation. If the 'act' is affecting the relationship then full forgiveness is clearly not possible. Also, forgiveness is conditional on the offender's continued abstinence.

Answer 4

what difference does it make to you about sin anyways? how can you concern yourself with your bf committing adultery? you are both guilty of adultery because you aren't married anyways! sex was meant to share between the husband and wife. not bf-gf...also the bible says if your left eye strays, pluck it out, better to loose one member than the whole...so if you even look at a person with lust in your heart, you have sinned under the context of adultery anyways. these are the concepts, rules and directives of the bible. I would venture to say that nearly everyone on this planet is guilty of this sin. the sin of adultery can be a tiny thought, or flesh to flesh. Then, there is the other teachings in the bible about forgiveness...for me, and probably most people. Once someone cheats on us, the trust bond is severaly damaged. someone did that to me once, a wife. i tried to forgive her, but i couldn't. so i divorced her. if a gf did that to me, the same would be true. Generally, once a person cheats on you, it will continue. Also, with the cheater are so many lies. if you find one lie, there are 20 you never uncovered. That type of relationship is nothing but a continual frustration. Why waste time being upset, sad, hurt angery?

Answer 5

How many of our relationships has GOD put together? How many relationships have we gone to GOD with, even after we're in them let alone asking HIM to guide us into or away from. The Bible says,"The marriage bed is undefiled." Any sex outside of marriage is sin. In the LORD'S prayer we say," and forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us. In other words we're saying ,GOD if I don't forgive others then don't forgive me. When GOD sent JESUS to the cross and HE went none of us deserved to be forgiven. Also usually the person we are not forgiving is not the least bit concerned or affected by our unforgiving. It just eats at the us when we don't forgive. Why punish ourselves when someone else does us wrong? The Bible also says," GOD blesses those who are obedient and curses those who are disobedient." How foolish are we when we do things out of GOD"S will then expect HIM to bless us. Won't happen! Work out your relationship with GOD then be ready to say," WHOA! GOD ease up on the blessings I'm being overwhelmed." I know I've been there.

Answer 6

living your life according to the bible is sometimes hard to do. I am a christian and i think that if i were to get married and the guy turns out to be cheating, abusive, a liar, or something bad i would end it. of course you do have to be sure of what you are doing before you get married and not just jump into it. if you have a good reason for ending a marriage i think that god would be understanding.
I also had the same thing happen with my ex bf. he was cheating and i did not want to forgive him. till this day i still havent. hes not someone i would want to see ever again but i take it as he does not exist to me. i dont dwell on hating him or what he did. he just... out of mind.

Answer 7

God ordained marriage.

You asked about your relationship that wasn't a marriage. You were both cheating. You were cheating whoever it is that WILL be your husband, and he was cheating whoever will be his wife.

You have to ask yourself if you're a Christian or not. If you are, then take your sins to God, leave them (through confession) at the foot of the cross, and like Jesus said to the woman taken in adultery, Go, and sin no more.

If you're not a Christian, you're on your own.
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Answer 8

Remember that the oldest part of the bible was written for primitive tribesmen and even the NT was written for people far removed from our times.

Adultery is bad, with or without marriage, not because the bible says so but because, as you point out and as any good person, atheist or Christian realizes, it hurts the one who is wronged and it shows a lack of respect on the part of the adulterer.

I would look to civil law for what is legal as far as divorce and remarriage. Unfortunately, adultery is only one of a number of ways you can be hurt in marriage and there are churches who don't see spousal abuse as a reason for divorce.

Don't ever loose respect for yourself and don't ever let someone tell you that you need to suffer for some god.

Good luck.

Answer 9

First and foremost, if you are having sex before marriage, then that is not good.

Regarding adultery and Marriage. If the other party is the one committing adultery, then you can seek divorce. Do you need to forgive them? You should - especially if you are asked to forgive.

Answer 10

Mark 10:11 "And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.

10:12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery."

Leviticus 20:10 "And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death."

So all those that divorce are adulterers, and all adulterers are to be put to death. Got it. Unless, ouf course, the man simply doesn't like something about his wife...

Deuteronomy 24:1 "When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house."

Wow, that seems pretty contradictory to me. Hardly the work of a "perfect" being, I'd say. Better to make your own choices in life and do what's best for yourself instead of worrying about an old story.