i am 27 yrs female, thinking about having babies, everytime i met mums they tell me its really worth it, kids were the best thing in their life... but i have some doubts about it, i think they are not telling me the whole story. i have alot of dream such as travelling, open a business, i am quite active person, i like kids, should i have a couple of babies now, will this change my life better or worse?
2007-01-24 10:40:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It's up to you to decide whether or not you want to have kids or not. If you feel comfortable having kids then have them kids are precious and worth everything that you go through. If you want to make a life for yourself and kive your life to the fullest then do it and think about having kids later. Do what you think is best for you.Having kids is your descision noone elses.
2007-01-24 10:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children will probably slow your life down-it's hard to travel and work when they are young. Now that my son is over a year, I have travelled a bit more-but with him of course! My son is the best thing that happened in my life-hard to explain but I love the life I have now more than I did before I had a child of my own. I have chosen to not go back to work, I can't imagine leaving him with someone else-but that's up to the mother. Children give you a different perspective or view on life too, so you will change. I didn't have to ask others if I should have a child, I knew deep down without a doubt that this is what I wanted.
2007-01-24 18:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my children young and they made my life so far worth it.
Yes, I went though about 8 years (after my last child was born), at that time I could afford to travel, so I take my whole family on trips, and we enjoy our freedom together.
Sacrifice?? Of course, but when they come into your life, your preferences shift and you prefer to sacrifice those other things for a short time..
Im in the fertility business, and you dont want to start trying after 35... YOu may fail and even being able to get pregnant.
That is more emotional costly than not being about to travel for 8-10 years.
2007-01-24 18:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask maybe you arent ready. I have 2 kids and would love to travel the world. I take a vacation with friends and a vacation with my kids once a year. I have a full time job and work at home part time. Yes it will change your life. Its up to you how much you let change. You can continue with your plans and dreams just with entra people. Good luck
2007-01-24 18:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids, they deserve all the time you can give them. That means being home and available to them all through their early years, and when they come home from school, for eighteen years. We eat a lot. We go to expensive schools and wreck your cars. We want dogs and cats.
Young kids and travel don't mix. Once they're in elementary school, if they're considerate and mature, they can travel well. Unless your business only needs you around during school hours, it's pretty much out of the question.
Kids don't steal your self from you, they deserve the best parts of yourself that you can give them, and if you don't sacrifice to love, comfort, guide, and correct them, they and you will pay for it later. It's not something you do for the heck of it.
2007-01-24 18:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to be a workd traveler & open your own buisness you may want to think long and hard wht you really want. Also you are still young take time to do the things you want for a few years & contimplaite kids in a few years. Just a thought
2007-01-24 18:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no one answer for this. You can still do all those things with children and as a matter of fact the children can give you good coping skills. But if you're not ready now you may never be ready. It's just what you decide and how about the father?
2007-01-24 18:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're 30ish then start, that gives yo a few years to do what you need to do. You'll also be young enough to not have a huge risk for birth defects.
I think it's wonderful that you are being so responsible and honest. You seem like a good person.
Good luck!
2007-01-24 18:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Baby #1 born August 2009 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For The Better
2007-01-24 18:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel that children fit into your life style,then don't have any,or put it off for a while,your still rather young make the most of it!!
2007-01-24 18:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋