I am having my 14th birthday party next week and my parents invited someone who is very annoying and i really dont want him at my party. How can i uninvite him without being mean, because he is a good kid and will get upset easily. He also lives in my neighborhood.
2007-01-24 10:39:15 · 10 answers · asked by amitpop22 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hmm...this is a toughy. This wouldn't be uninviting him but how about you 1) have your parents mention to his parents or you mention to him nonchalantly that your birthday party is from this time to this time and make it short, like 2 hours. Have everyone at the party act like they're leaving or just leave for a little bit, then have the invited guests come back after he leaves or 2) reschedule the party for a date that you know he is busy on and won't be able to come (a sports event he is playing in, a family commitment, etc.). My third option isn't as effective but it may help. If there is a video game that he is obsessed with that you have, have that up and running so he gets distracted and leaves everyone alone.
Another thing to keep in mind is that there is a chance he won't be as annoying as you think he'll be. This has happened to me before - we were all worried about how this one friend of ours was going to act at a thing we didn't want her at, but then she ended up being fine.
2007-01-24 10:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by lesleysmag 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, for Heaven's sake, don't uninvite him.
don't move the party date.
Don't lie to him.
He will find out anyway.
If you don't want him there:
either be mean and tell him upfront and honestly which will hurt his feelings, but you won't have to deal with him at the party.
(Well, you will think of him thought because your c conscience will get the better of you).
Or, just let him come.
The thing about a party is that there are lots of people. So, he can mmingle with others. Yes, give him a chore or ask him to help with something.
ANd, if some of your less annoying friends ask you why you invited him,
"Don't give them an answer," because he will probably be in earshot and hear it and then, get his feelings hurt, anyway.
Just say that he is a nice boy or a family friend.
If you are afraid that he will hang on you or be too close to you, you might have to invite someone else who is his friend who will occupy some of his time. But, that might be two annoying people.
Who knows.
And, he will probably grow out of his annoyances.
Oh, if there is just one thing that annoys you about him:
say,
the way hieskips up the street,
then ask him not to do this because it bothers you.
But, if it is a litany of things, then you will just have to have the party and see what happens.
2007-01-24 19:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by JAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much answered your own question when you said you didn't want to be mean because he's a god kid and upsets easily.
You know you can't uninvite him, and even if you go ahead and do it anyway against better judgement, you'll feel guilty later. I'd almost gaurantee that you'll enjoy your party more if you simply decide not to let him irritate you than if you try to stop him from coming.
2007-01-24 18:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't uninvite him, just let him come and maybe he won't be that bad! Then, talk to your parents and ask them next time not to invite people to your party, at 14 you should be old enough to make your own decisions on who to invite and who not to.
2007-01-25 10:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really cannot un-invite him without hurting his feelings
or incurring a fight with your parents so why don't you call
him and ask him if he wouldn't mind supervising the music,
or food, etc. This will give him something to do which will
cut the annoyance factor by half and make him feel important.
When he runs out of things to do, make up another list. This
will cut down on the time you have to interact with him.
.
2007-01-24 18:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should learn to show some class and show your friends how you are cool to everyone, and that is that. Show that you are cool and don't get annoyed by people so easily. I have the highest respect for my son who will welcome anyone like that in group of friends and actually be very accepting and make the person feel very good about being with them. Its amazing how much respect he has earned from all his friends.
2007-01-25 01:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't uninvite someone. That's very rude. Sorry your parents invited him without checking with you, but you can't undo it without very hurt feelings.
2007-01-24 18:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is he a good kid and yet annoying?
Tell him the party is cancelled.
2007-01-25 02:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him jumped a few days before the party, he probably wont show up!
2007-01-24 19:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go to your party. Be a nice guy.
2007-01-24 18:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋