Its like he is playing these stupid games with me and i keep going along with them. He uses me and no matter how hard it is to walk away from him i still stay close. I dont know if i can do it anymore becauase being used is better than being invisible to him?
he says alot of stuff behind my back and i love him. He says i am ugly and stalking him when i dont stalk him.i dont think im ugly but i dont think i am terribly gorgeous. I want to just die because he uses me and that--that bruises me alot. I want to be with him. But he is the kind of guy like at homecoming you would be like" OMG LETS GRIND" because he is fresh meat. But once you get to know him he is a liar. But i love him.
we have made out and he has touched me and he got mad at be bc i didnt give him a BJ or hand. I said no that i wasnt ready.he got pisssed off.
is he using me to get what he wants?
but he says so much crapp about me behind my back its like the only option i want is..... suicide
2007-01-24 10:31:13 · 14 answers · asked by lifereject 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is not my boyfriend.
he is my best friend....or i think so
2007-01-24 10:35:59 · update #1
Break-up..
Move on..
Find a new b/f
2007-01-24 10:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off....there isnt a boy or man in the world worth harming yourself over so.....lets lose that thought right away...ok? :)
Now, you need some self esteem boosters. He has somehow managed to convince you that you are lucky to have him. Let me explain something sweety. There are men out there that do this just to get what they want. The thing that you have to do,,,,,is have more respect for yourself.
He is with you for a reason, which may be because he thinks he can get whatever he wants outta you. You have already proven him wrong and BRAVO to you!!! :)
Now, you need to get rid of his fanny. Let him know you are better than what he thinks you are and that you wont allow him to use you for anything. Trust me hun.....you may think there is no other guy cuter or better than he is.....but i am here to tell ya....the looks on the outside are covering a peice of crap on the inside. Dont let him use u as a doormat hun. You deserve better.
He will say rotten things about you, but you have proven to him and yourself that you are worth more than what he is giving you.
Make him eat his words when you find you a fella who treats you like you deserve to be treated. And trust me....you will. Keep your head up and if you feel down, talk to someone. Dont ever give up hope or give up on yourself.
Get those negative thoughts out of your head. I am not saying it will be easy, but you will gain alot of respect for yourself if you begin to think more of yourself and do what i have told you...... Good luck hun.
2007-01-24 11:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all no man is worth taking your life over. About the using you part he deffently is and you need to earn the strengh to not talk to him and move on. Realize what he is doing to you. While he is out saying bad things about you, you could be out with a nice guy that is talking nice things about you to your face and then when he isn't with you he will be talking good and bragging about you to others unlike the guy you like now. My sister was in the same situation. She was with a guy and he got her pregnant and then started talking bad about her and left her for a 17 yr old. She loved him more than anything and still wanted to be with him no matter how he treated her but then I finally talked some sense into her about meeting new people and seeing how she can find someone that actually loves her and would never say anything bad about her. So be strong and you will find you someone that loves you for you. Good luck.
2007-01-24 10:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A much better option than suicide is to dump this USER and wait till a guy comes along who respects you, treats you kindly, and thinks you are worth treating like the great person you are. You are with an ABUSER and you are much too good for this. Ask yourself what there is to love about this guy. Be honest with yourself. And then realize that you love what you wish he could be if he would change..which he won't. And then cut him loose, kick him to the curb and be proud of yourself!!!! You have the chance for much happiness in your future without him. Don't blow your chances!
2007-01-24 10:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill yourself...and are you serious about this come on!!! You don't love him you're just obsessed with him, you think that you can't get no one else or better don't think that way, he is just using you if he really cared about you he wouldn't treat you like crap he wouldn't disrespect you unto others. Get away from him you are getting to used to being with him, try doing some other things hang out with friends or do excersise get a hobby entertain yourself however possible but distract yourself away from him.
2007-01-24 10:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet like Sees Candy's!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NEVER let a guy make you want to kill yourself. Please, don't do anything stupid. You sound so sweet and any guy would be so lucky to have someone as loyal and compassionate as you!
This guy is a complete douche bag! You really shouldn't let him get to you like that. It hurts now that he's using you but if you don't get out of this now things are only going to get worse. What happens when he gets furious that you won't give him head? You're most likely going to be a in a public place when he demands that from you, he's GOING to get tired of you turning him down, I promise. He'll either wind up hitting you or raping you. Sorry to say something that strong, but it's true. Please, please, please be careful and try to ditch him.
You don't deserve to be treated like this!
2007-01-24 10:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by silence_within_chaos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, get it together. he's using you or at least trying too. If he treats you bad and does all the thing you say he does, you need to leave him alone. Any man that doesn't think you are beautiful, isn't worth being with. Hurting yourself to see if they care, isn't going to work honey, and he is not worth it. It'll be hard, but you already know inside yourself he's no good for you. Find someone who is, or at least tries.
2007-01-24 10:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is using you and he doesn't respect you at all. Any time a guy makes you feel like crap about yourself, beware and trust your inborne female instincts. This guy is robbing you of your self-esteem and self-worth!!!! A dangerous boy, not a real man!
You deserve better, you deserve respect and shouldn't have to take the emotional abuse that he is giving you. There are plenty of other hot guys out there who will like you and will fit better together with you anyway. You should never have to compromise your beliefs for a guy or take emotional abuse - there are guys out there who will respect you for who you are, trust me!
Get rid of him - he's trouble!
2007-01-24 10:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by webwonder81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being foolish and move on with your life. Why would waste even another second on a scumbag like that? It is very clear that he has no real interest in you and is just taking advantage of your feelings for him.
He is a loser, and unless you get over him now and move on, you will end up being a loser with him. Don't let that happen!
2007-01-24 10:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by answerman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl i hate to break it to you but you fell out of love and he is using you. c'mon you are better than that. this guy is treating you like crap and you obviously can't be yourself around him so just take a break because if your not ready your not ready and what is hand? did you mean head? i don't want to know actually
2007-01-24 10:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is common relationship problem.
try to seduce him.
he is saying something behind ur back -doesnot matter.
these r common things.
remain seprate for some time also
2007-01-24 10:38:13 · answer #11 · answered by Wondrer 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋