i have been with my partner since i was 16 and we have been married 6 years and the spark has went out slighlty can anyone give me advice on how to get it back on track??? or do anything to get him to pay more attenion
2007-01-24 10:28:12 · 18 answers · asked by lorna_rlly 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
dump him
2007-01-24 10:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by ELAINE F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a nice break might work. its amazing how when your away from the hussle and bustle of normal day to day life that you realise how much your missing not only in life but with eachother. Also try to talk to your husband and tell him how your feeling and suggest that you do more together as a couple rather than living completely seperate lives. It will take the two of you to get the spark back, even though you feel its more on his side then yours, you'd be surprised, if you make an effort and he see's your doing so, then he will make the effort also. Remember though, the spark will never be a strong as it was when you were sixteen but it will always be there, flickerig in the background waiting to be let out!
2007-01-24 10:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by shortpeg2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's always a good idea to start doing different things outside of the house together. Expand your horizons and take up a new hobby together. Take a trip. When you spark your mind, you spark your lives together.
I don't like being out on the ocean, but we've decided to join a sailing club this summer. I imagine when the salt air is hitting our faces and we're gripping the ropes, with waves splashing... we'll have a great spark when we get home. You have to make your life exhilarating.
We also started dancing lessons and when we get home, we practice what we learned... naked. The tango has been the most fun! And when we're at the lesson the following week, we're always kind of giggling.
2007-01-24 10:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to your partner about this? It's best to keep open communication. You could go on a trip, try different things sexually. And in order to do this you'll have to know what he's up for.
By the way when I say trip, I don't mean bermuda. I mean like mountain climbing or something. Unless you do that a lot, then I mean bermuda :P
Oh yeah, as far as sex is concerned, a really good way to bring back a spark is sex in public. And if either of you are very against it, spring for sex outdoors in a fairly secluded space.
2007-01-24 10:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on holiday alone or with friends, spend some time apart so you appreciate each other more... at least do things independantly out of choice and then meet in a restaurant or whatever with lots to talk about. find something new to do, something that makes you more interested and interesting. the grass is always greener, and inevitably after such a long time you will get used to each other. if you could spend time apart to the point of missing him or the other way round you'd see some spark i reckon. its always more interesting when there's a chase involved or a bit of risk. when the risk is removed it will become dull, inevitably. make plans for the future and always be working towards something new together.
2007-01-24 10:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by kosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds awful but don't try too hard. You could seem to be 'despirate'. if you do your own thing, then you put the ball in his court and he will think what youre thinking now. Be spontanious, have the girls round for a go on your chocolate fountain accompanied by red wine...then make a fuss of him when they're gone... he'll take advantage of the attention and realise what he's missing the rest of the time.
good luck x
2007-01-24 10:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Hay-Ho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Light the whole house with candles,very romantic, soft music in the back ground, get some massage oil, have the bottel wrapped in a heating pad and give each other a hot oil massage.
2007-01-24 10:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act likee you did at 16 unless someones safety is at stake.
Do not go with any notion of proper behavour ie dont let people stop you showing public displays of affection.
Skinny dip on a posh golf course lake.
get Remote control vibrators... vibe bit goes in your unders...
Loverboy gets the control... all day. pressing the button anytime he likes.
Sneak under a resturant table to suck him.
You enter wet t shirt competitions and he has to cheer you on.
or simplar say Jelly wrestling.
ie www.octoberfest.com first sun of months and say its hubbies birthday... can he gt in with you and the other girls.
Pole dance lessons and a pole in the house with smoke machine and disco lights.
go somewhere like
http://www.superclubs.com/brand_hedonism/resort_hedonismii/
be nughty, teenagerish. No dinner parties, go clubbing, date, snog in clubs
2007-01-24 11:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send love notes, candle lit dinners, greet him at work and take him to lunch......buy some cute lingerie! Send him flowers, men like them too. Give him a massage....a bubble bath together.....take a mini vacation......make time to talk and have fun! Greet him with hugs and kisses....if you generate some spark a fire will soon begin!!!! Ive been married to my H.S sweetheart for over 20 yrs...and we are still like kids together....always laughing and truely enjoy being together. Say "I love you" alot and mean it......never take a single day for granted....give more you will really get more from your relationship~~ GOOD LUCK and HAVE FUN !
2007-01-24 10:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go off and do something random. Go out with your girlfriends.... or maybe even with him and other people... and remind him of just how amazing you are. Maybe a holiday to somewhere really exciting where you can bond again. Even if it's just a weekend break. if it's in the bedroom then try something new - anything.... or go to a really nice hotel and never leave the bed ;-)
2007-01-24 10:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps bypass on a cruise or perhaps quite vacation in case you may't have the funds for a cruise (camping out vacation, street vacation to a funky position). attempt taking area in video games with him and obviously throw somewhat kinkiness into the equation
2016-12-03 00:23:12 · answer #11 · answered by kwiatkowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋