oh crap....... please help me?

Question

ok, here is the deal i started going out with a guy on friday. i didnt really know him but he was very sweet. but the problem is i am really considering dumping him. we just aren't compatable. i didnt feel that we clicked. please help me. i dont want to be the biggest jerk in the world for dumping him. i really dont know what to do. this is stressing me out so much and i cant stop worrying. everyone is started to spread rumors and stuff. im a nervous wreck an need some help. so any advice is much wanted. Thank you so much


p.s no rude remarks please :-)

oh and ii forgot to add that he has the biggest crush on me like ever.

Answer 1

Well, since you guys haven't been going out a long time, you don't owe him a huge explanation.

Just say you think he's a sweet guy but you're no longer interested in him. You could text him/e-mail him if you're chicken of doing it face to face. It's alright since this isn't a serious relationship.

Besides, if you guys have only been going out a few days, chances are he isn't going to be too hurt either. He barely knows you anyways!

Answer 2

I would go best by telling him how i feel about it. I will just be honest with my feelings about him, and just get over with it. For him it would be even more appropriate if you meet with him personally, like go to a diner or coffee or something relaxing with him, approach the moment where you think its right, and tell him by starting slowly step by step. Like first how you feel about him. Just tell him that he has always been a great person to you, but that you honestly don't think he's for you as a girlfriend/boyfriend case. I hope that helps.

Answer 3

Ever notice how a dog pulls with all their might to smell a fire hydrant, yet sometimes just walks by without peeing?
Use that line when you tell him, you were just trying him out. You don't owe him anything more than that.

Answer 4

Nothing to worry about here. Just be strong and clear and tell him that he's a nice guy but things didn't click.

Answer 5

you got to do what you got to do, if your not happy then get out of it, im sure he will understand everyone has the right to be happy, dont just stay with him for the sake of making him happy it will never work for you. and as for rumours dont listen to them people that start those have no life of their own so they have to mess with others, goodluck

Answer 6

honesty works. tell him how you feel and help him understand. it hurts more if you lead him on or if he finds out from someone else. and dont stress so much. as long as your true to yourself and honest to those around you you have nothing to worry about. if however he causes trouble just tell him thats the way you feel and nothing can change that.good luck:)

Answer 7

girl!!!how can you stress when you just met the guy? do not worry they do it all the time and do you see them writing yahoo about it?

Answer 8

okay... first you need to talk to your boyfriend about this. who knows he might feel the same. or maybe you just need to stop worring and really think it through, because if you're worring to much about something, and you're trying to think something through, you dont really see the whole picture because you're to worried. trust me it's happened to me. and let people talk, that's one thing. if you're in high school, people talk. let them. because no matter what they are going to talk. they talk and talk until they realize you dont care.

Answer 9

just do it i had a bf for an the sortest time ok so just do it

Answer 10

I THINK YOU SHOULD JUST BE UP FRONT WITH HIM...TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL...RIGHT NOW IN HIS MIND HE'S THINKING THAT YOU REALLY LIKE HIM...YOU STILL BEING WITH HIM IS ONLY MAKING THINGS WROST CAUSE YOUR NOT BEING UP FRONT WITH HIM...BYE :-)