for the ladies to answer please?

Question

Would you consider it wrong if the guy you were in a relationship with looked at porn? if yes why? and if no why?

Answer 1

It depends on why he looked at it. If he looked at it to replace sex, that would be a problem. But if he did it out of enjoyment and wasn't obsessed, i couldn't care less. My bf does have a porn tape, or at least he did when I just knew him as a friend 10 years ago. I thought nothing of it. I didn't even bring it up. A few weeks ago I asked him about it. Just out of curiousity and sort of pulling his leg. I said to him "I know what's in your tape cabinet" in a sing song voice. He got this freaked out look on his face and said "What do you mean, girl?". I said to him "The porno tape. I know and have known for years.". He became very flustered and I started to laugh. I told him I didn't care. I honestly don't. Who am I to tell him what he can't and can enjoy? As long as he treats me well and doesn't let it affect me to that extent, I don't care. It's his taste.

Answer 2

No, I don't consider it wrong for my husband to look at porn if he wants to. Now if he was just obsessed with porn that would be another matter but if it's not an every day thing I think it's fine. Ya can't get sexually transmitted diseases from looking at porn so why not? Seems harmless really.

Answer 3

No, my boyfriend and I watch pornography together. Sometimes I get jealous, but it makes him happy. Understand, though, if it starts to cause a problem (i.e. maxing out your credit cards to buy it, avoiding friends and family because you don't want to go out - you'd rather stay home and watch porn - or when it starts to affect your relationship negativly.)

Understand, though, a lot of women don't like their other half watching porn. Some of it may be because she finds it obscene and also because she may feel inadquate next to the 100 lb model they have in all the scenes.

If you do watch porn, make sure your girl knows about it and is okay with it. If she's not, sit down and talk to her about it. Maybe you can help ease some of her insecurities or worries by talking to her so there won't be a surprise when she walks in on you watching Busty Blondes XII (or worse, brings someone over while you are, like say, her parents!) Set up some general rules about watching and not watching and even set up a date to go to a store (or get pornography off PPV) together and enjoy! Maybe she'll want to try a new position or maybe one of her fantasies will play out with your new open sexual aspect of the relationship.

Answer 4

I guess it depends on what kind of porn and whether it takes up more time than the guy gives to the relationship.

As an example, I moved out of my parents house to live with my girlfriend. After nearly three years we broke up and one of the first things I did in my new life was to subscribe to Playboy magazine, something I'd always wanted to do. Every month the issue arrives and sits proudly on my coffee table and my friends (girls and guys alike) leaf through it. Not only are there three pictorials per issue, but there are great tips and interviews (Dixie Chicks this month, Simon Cowell last month) and reviews of motorbikes and goodies.

If the porn is just smut, and it doesn't appeal to the girl and it bothers her, communicate clearly now instead of letting the issue fester and letting it come out in an argument.

Answer 5

I love porn. We watch together. I dont mind if he views it in my absence. What I would mind was if(and he dosent) he became addicted and didnt want me,just the porn or if he was always looking at it and so much he neglected our relationship. Otherwise,if Im out or just not in the mood,fine. I look myself when he's at work.
However,in a situation where one partner is uncomfortable with it,that should be respected but if thats something someone dosent want to respect than that person ought to find someone who does like it or is ok with him/her viewing it.

Answer 6

Nope. It is good that the guy looks at porn instead of the guy doing it with someone else. Or make it even better and make your porn together and make some interesting postitions.

Answer 7

I'd just be concerned. Porn does nothing for you. It's an unrealistic fantasy at best and the frustration because of that is not good for a person emotionally.It has nothing to do with real relationships.

Answer 8

No, not if he was open about it. I'd ask to look at it together ;)

Why? Guys are visual beings, and also sexual beings. Porn combines the two and is healthy for the male psyche, in moderation of course. I would prefer my man to be looking at porn than to be touching real women.

Answer 9

Yes! Porn is so degrading! Why do you need to look at other women when you're already in a relationship...If you want something different or something more exciting get your girlfriend to try new things in the romance department.

Answer 10

If he is looking at child porn I would be very upset. If he was looking at adult porn, I wouldn't get too worried unless he was more interested in the porn than in building a relationship with me.