Opinions please =) Is she interested?

Question

Im my college class there's a girl who always sits next to me and we rarely exchange words, but i decided one day to make an initiative and make small talk. I've noticed that she seems to play with her hair when she talks to me like very erraticly. I've tried to get her to mirror my body language such as shifting positions with some success. I get the feeling there may be a connection , but she has missed class a couple times, (maybe once or twice a week) and you would think if she were interested she would go. One small note which may seem totally off is that ladies in college tend to ditch my classes when they are in a relationship..... Any opinions at all will be greatly appreciated

Answer 1

This is how it worked for me:

I also liked this one girl, and as both me and you know, it is always difficult to talk to a girl that we think is hot. If the girl is so-so looking, it's much easier to strike up a convo and keep it up, even if you are very shy. So, like you with your girl, I tried to make small talk with the girl I thought was really attractive, and I also sensed there was something, but I wasn't confident enough to just let my personality out and ask if she wanted to do H.W. together in the library or w.e. So, I told myself I'd just do this:

Start up a convo with a girl who was on the border of being attractive to me, but not quite there. This way, I knew there'd be some challenge in making a convo, but it wouldn't send my heart pounding. So I did this with a chick and was able to let the "true me" out, and she was so responsive. It gave me SO much confidence and I was very happy, even though I didn't like her. I came out of that class and just started smiling at girls I had never met and saying hello, and most of them responded with a "hello". So, I continued to talk to other girls that I really didn't have too much interest dating (okay, that sounds bad, but it is how it is... some girls you don't wish to get to know) but I made an EFFORT to be open with them and to listen/respond to what they said. This way, I developed alot of confidence and one day, back in the class that has that hot girl I was drooling over, we worked in groups and she was in mine. I started a convo, and I was amazed at how dang at-ease I felt. She responded readily and I realized that I have no trouble talking to her any longer. Alas, I found out she had a BF, but hey... Now, I have confidence to go beyond small talk.

Anyways, lol, sorry for that long one. Your girl might be skipping class just because... It doesn't have to be for a guy. She's playing with her hair probably because she feels attracted. Listen, when people send signals of attraction, it's a biological/psychological thing. They do it subtly because they have no idea if you like them back or not, so they don't want to straight out tell you they are attracted for fear of embarrassment (just how you probably feel)... but what they DOES happen is if you DO like this person, these subtle signs of attraction will get you wondering about that girl (just as you are doing). That is the POINT. If you THINK she's attracted, she most likely is, because you think she is due to her sending subtle signals (which she might not even be conscious of). Now, why does she seem unresponsive to your small talk? Because to her, your small talk doesn't really give any signs that you're attracted... It almost seems like you're just saying something since you sit next to her. You have to make a real effort to start a real convo. Try to help her with whatever you're doing in class, or ask her about her classes or major, and then relate to it ("oh, yeah, I read about that. They say this is like that, is that true?")

Answer 2

Mention to her that you noticed she missed class and say that you hope she wasn't ill. This leads an opening for her to explain why she wasn't there. You might even say that you are glad she's back. This lets her know that you like her and if she likes you too, she'll feel flattered by the compliment. Once you talk to her a little bit, you can ask her if she has a boyfriend and if not, then ask her if she wants to go out to a movie (or dinner, or luch) some time. If she says no, then you know she isn't interested. Good luck on getting the girl!

Answer 3

It true that ladies might miss classes when they are in a relationship, but there might be some other reason for her missing the couple of classes. Try asking her out for a pizza, that will be the best way to test her interest. Make sure that you give her the option to choose a time and place. Once she has accepted the date, and kept it, you can take it from there.

Answer 4

Just go for it. Ask yourself what is the worst that can happen, she says "I'm sorry, I'm not interested" or "I already have a boyfriend." This would be the worst that they would probably say if you ask her on a date or something but I suggest you try to just be friends first and see if she does have a boyfriend or not. Once you figure this out then you can choose to ask or not.

If your not too confident in asking her out then just try asking if she wants to go to lunch as friends. Then once you feel like you can ask her out, ask her if she would be interested in being more then friends or if she would like to go out as more then friends.

Hope things turn out for the best!

PS: Don't avoid her if you find out she does have a boyfriend because things may change rather quickly. That's what is happening with this girl I like.

Answer 5

First, change your attitude and have more confidence. Your username shows that you have no confidence.
Second, you won't know if she likes you for sure if you don't tell her how you feel.
She could be skipping class just because she doesn't feel like going. She could be sleeping, have a hangover, be sick..... Thinking she should be there if she likes you is a little far fetched.
The bottom line is, tell her you like her, and don't assume her not being in class doesn't mean that she don't like you.

Answer 6

Playing with one's own hair usually indicates interest in whoever they're talking to. Missing a class could be for a variety of reasons

Answer 7

Playing with her hair is a nervous activity. I think she likes you but ditching class is a hard - to - get motive. She likes you because she always sits by you and she gets nervous when you talk to her. Read the signs here honey!!

Answer 8

Almost a sure thing...if a girl plays with her hair while she's talking to you, she's interested. She's probably missing class for her own reasons.

Answer 9

Make a move! Walk with her after class - ask her to go to lunch or for a coke, find out and quit waisting time dreaming!

Answer 10

SOMETIMES WE AS MEN CANT READ BETWEEN THE LINES OF A WOMAN BODY REACTIONS,WHAT YOU EXPECT WE ARE MEN,DONT GET LOST OR DISCOURAGED ABOUT IT THOUGH,YOU JUST HAVE TO STAY FOCUSED AND RE ASSERT YOURSELF,REMEMBER THIS IS A WOMAN,COMEON TO STRONG YOUR GOING GET THE BOOT OR THE BIGGEST TURN DOWN IN HISTORY,GIVE HER SOME ROOM TO THINK IF SHES REALLY INT YOU YOU WILL KNOW,IF SHES NOT INTO YOU TRUST ME YOU WILL STILL KNOW. REMEMBER SIGMAN FRUAD DIED TRYING TO ANSWER ONE QUESTION(WHAT DO WOMEN WANT.)