do long distance relationships work?

Question

what do u guys think do they??

Answer 1

my huband and I had a long distance relationship for 2 years before I moved to live with him. We were together for a year, then the long distance bit started, 2 years later I moved to be with him, and nearly 11 years on we're married and still together. It's harder work than if you live in the same town, and you have to be prepared to work at it, but if you love each other and know that you want each other that's no real hardship.
In a way, the long distance part served us well because it made us realise how strong our relationship is. When you do see each other it's so much more special than if you'd been seeing each other every night. My husband works abroad fairly frequently now, so when he is away for that, which is usually only a week or two, I know I'll be fine because we managed all that time apart before.

From a practical perspective, if you're asking this question because your relationship is looking like it might have to be long distance, make sure that you trust each other. If one of you has doubts about that it will destroy what you have, which goes for long distance or non-long distance. Also, bear in mind that travel costs- don't split up because you're disagreeing over how often you can afford to see each other, or one of you gets into debt over travel costs. You need to be able to communicate about things like that, and also to be able to communicate well on a general basis.
I hope it works out for you.

Answer 2

If you are truely in love then nothing can break you apart. No distance, no person nothing when you love someone so much you just can't live with out them and you make it work and you communicate and that is the key. You have to be honest and tell each other how you are feeling and why. Be honest and yes along distance relationship can work.

Answer 3

Not really well 2 start off its hard right you want 2 be with them all the time but because there are so many miles between you it cant happen so first you have this pain like because you miss them after a while you start 2 wonder are they being true 2 you or are they going with some1 else in bed then comes this really horrible phase when you stop trusting and think they are lying 2 you about everything. Thirdly is after a long period of time the contact you have becomes less and less and 2 start with it really bothers you but then its not such a big deal anymore if you speak with your partner or not and finally when you do eventually see them you realise you stopped loving them along time ago.

Well that was my case i moved away for work reasons hundreds of miles away we planned that he would follow and after 2 years of all that when he was ready to come over 2 me i broke up with because one it wasnt really true love and 2 there wasnt any space for him in my new kife.

Answer 4

i was in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years. it can work if you try really hard! you have to have alot of trust in that person also. you never know what their doing while they're not talking to you. it also helps alot if you do go and visit every now and then. if that person doesnt want you to come see them then it could be a bad sign. its very hard, but i would do it again!

Answer 5

I am in one now, & it seems to be working fine.

As I have said before, it really comes down to both parties wanting it to work, & having good communication. It also helps if you know when you are going to be together.

My partner & I truly love each other. We have sent sent thousands of text messages, hundred of e-mails, & regularly talk on the phone.

People may have problems with trust, & that can be an issue, but again I refer to to the importance of strong communication. When my girlfriend goes out she always texts me to say that she is home. It was something we both decided to do out of respect for each other so we wouldn't be at home worrying.

Bottom line is if both partners want it to work, love will find a way.

Answer 6

I think it depends on how well you know each other when you have to separate. If you really know each other and are sure you want to get married sure it can work. You will trust each other and wait till you can be together again. I had an aunt that waited for her husband several years. He was drafted into the military.
If you only know each other short term it doesn't usually work. Courtship by mail isn't really possible.

Answer 7

I think so. My boyfriend and i have been together 7 month's and our relationships long distance right now. But all relationships are different and it depends on how stable and how much you really feel for each other.

Answer 8

Well mine did met my bf 7 years ago when i was 18 in kavos Greece (club 18-30 holiday) he lived in Bradford i lived in Leicester we used to travel up and down every weekend then after 1 year of travel i moved to Bradford to be with him we brought are own house and now have a 3 year old son. We have now moved to Leicester where we are planing to get married later this year. Lots of people told us we were to young we wouldn't work but hey here we r still as much in love as day one.

Answer 9

this has been asked before.... yes if you TRUST eachother.. but if its gonna stay long distance then why commit?... just be friends and let each of you have fun with out feeling guilty... because at the end of the day.. do you really know what the other half is up to and vice- versa!

Answer 10

they can but like any relationship you have to work at it and not give up at the first difficulty ---- and at some point you must meet and decide what is going to happen do i move close to her or does she move close to me ---- i am in a long distance relationship at the moment