my mom has cancer (what can i do to help)?

Question

my mom had breast cancer a few years ago and was pregnant
she defeated the cancer and my lil' sis is fine but the cancer is back
she is going 2 chicago every 3 weeks 2 get chemo 4 a year! her doctor's here have been careless and made so many mistakes that we were afraid of losing her and at church, me, and my 2 sisters were being prayed for and they had NO clue at all! they started crying because they were scared and i can't stop thinking about how much they would cry if my mom died and she isn't doing too well right now i'm not too sure about how i could help her out, any suggestions (I REALLY CARE ABOUT MY MOM AND DON'T WANT TO LOSE HER!) i would REALLY appreciate it if anybody could give me ideas on how i could help? if u noe leave ideas thx

Answer 1

I myself am a cancer patient, so can say this from the other side of the fence. Try to support your mom, be there for when she needs you. Let her maintain her independence and much as she can. But try to be helpful with household things, such as making dinner, doing dishes, etc as much as you can. Cancer can be a scary thing, and dont be afraid to talk with your mom about your fears. As far as i know it is possible to have cancer come back (as in your moms case) and to defeat it again. As well chemotherapy can be really hard on the system, making people tired, nauseated, etc. Perhaps try if you havent already to research the cancer, the treatments, and what effects you can expect from it. Cherish every moment you have with your mom, as well as with anyone, no matter if they are well or sick. You also need to take care of your own health and worries, as i am sure your mom worries about you and your sister. If you find it hard to deal with, try talking to someone, or a cousellor.

Answer 2

I totally understand what you are going through. My mother has never been sick a day in her life, but now has non smokers lung cancer that has spread to her bones. It is so hard and I am emotional just like you. It hurts and you probably feel very helpless right now. The best thing you can do is to keep a positive attitude. When I am with my Mom, I am very positive and supportive, when I am alone I cry like a baby! You have to find your inner strength to help you and your sisters through this. Stick together and be a huge support system for your mom and for each other. We can't change her path and her future, but we can pray for comfort for her. I wish you the best and I will be praying for your family.

Answer 3

take care of your self and try to stay healthy. Try to help out around the house with chores and your little sisters If your old enough to drive run the errands for her cook a few meals be her appointment buddy. If the chemo makes her sick hold her hair while she throws up and spend as much time as you can with her.Encourage her as much as you can to get well.
There is nothing you can do to make the cancer go away but the little things you do to make her life easier will help

Answer 4

i understand what youre going through.ive been in a similar position. its good that you are praying..keep up the prayer to god and trust in him,even if you dont think the decisions or actions in your life are fair or right and sometimes might make you angry..i believe there is a reason for everything.make sure your sisters know that too.be there for your mom and support whatever shes going through..make sure you tell her how you feel about her all the time and how much you love her as well as your sisters,do the best you can at anyhting youre doing in life and know that everyhting will be alright.even if at the moment life is hard..sometimes its the hardest times in life that can take us to the best times yet.

live life to its fullest always love and dont get angry over petty things keep up the prayer and know that theres an even better life beyond death

also i might recomend you, your mom and sisters should have a fun girls day something they can remeber ya know? but not too straining on your mom in her current position.

Answer 5

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. It's hard to get through chemo therapy and your mom needs lots of rest to recuperate. You could help her around the house and doing the laundry, just doing some housework and look out for your sisters. She really would appreciate it.
She will be fine.

Answer 6

Sweet-heart,

I wish I could reach out and give you a hug!! I know you are going through a tough time, and don't want to lose her. Cherish every moment you have with your mom. There's a cancer place you can call too, or if things get really tough, you can call in HOSPICE, which gives a lot of support, during this difficult time.

I'm sorry!!

Peanuts

Answer 7

I know that you don't want to lose your dear mom.. and my prayers are with you all. I am also thinking that she defeated this disease once, by the power of prayer and love, but also with the power of knowledge. The knowledge of her doctors! Do your best to help her at home, keep things as normal as possible, but also understand that she is not herself. There may be times that she needs to cry, and maybe you need to cry with her.

Don't forget to pray for the Doctors and Nurses who also give her care! They do the best they can and they really do care - God Bless Them!! Loves and prayers to you and your family.

Answer 8

Wow, baby girl sorry to hear that about your mom, just be there for her and keep on praying, and going to church..dont stress her out. Just let her know that she means the world to you and your sisters give her hope, and love and reason to fight this cancer...read some healing scripters from the bible, pray with her. And pray for inner strength to be there for your mom, God will show you the way to help her and comfort her.
Everything will be alright, I will pray for your mom, you and yours sisters...

God Bless,

I have a couple of good prayers that u may want to read..

Answer 9

honey i don't know how old you are but research there are many hospital that are only for cancer patients we have one her in PA and my sister in law has fought the battle there twice and they don't give up on you as long as you mom is willing to fight try to keep her spirits up and don't let her give up honey my other sister in law passed away at 34 because she wouldn't fight and couldn't handle how sick she got from chemo she left 4 kids behind be there for your mom and make all you time with her special and have your church form pray groups for her the do work. and i will pray for you and you sister and your mom

Answer 10

Be there for her and try to comfort her and help keep her strength up.
There's not much else you can do for her.


My mom passed from Colon cancer 7 years ago.
She refused Chemo since it would have put more stress on an already bad family situation.
There wasn't anything I could do except be there for her, and to also keep on going in spite of the situation.