Is it tacky to do a honeymoon registry?

Question

Instead of the regular store registry?

why are store registries tacky?

Answer 1

I don't think so at all! With all of the couples living together, and accumulating all of their household goods prior to marriage, I think this is becoming more and more common. Some of the older people that I know (such as my mother) think it is tacky, but I think they need to get with the modern times!

Answer 2

I'm French, so it might not help you. But I knew a couple who got married when they were about 40, so that they already had everything for their house (I actually, they had pretty much everything twice), so they asked people to do a honeymoon registry. No one was shocked. And they chose the destination in accordance with what had been given. Actually, I know another couple, young this one, who did that as well. And my best friends just got married, and asked for an "envelope" (don't know how to say that: just money) because they had paid for everything (didn't want there parents to be involved - except maybe the dress, I don't know the details). No one complained, and it's better than giving them something they find ugly.

I think you should just do whatever you like! I don't see why it should be tacky. A honeymoon is part of the wedding ritual. If you don't have the money to afford it, yes, by all means, do a honeymoon registry. I don't even see why it should be a problem. It's your wedding, isn't it? Anyway, there are always people who will criticize you, whatever you do!

Answer 3

I think that's a tough call - there's some gray to be considered there.

It's true that many couples today have already accumulated what would go on a traditional bridal registry, and the newlyweds may not have the cash for a nice honeymoon - it's kind of a trade-off. Yet it still seems a little tacky to be soliciting family and friends for contributions for a week in Aruba.

I thought registries were less common today anyway and cash was the more typical wedding gift, in which case it's up to the couple to decide where and how to spend the money. Unfortunately, I don't know of a tactful way to ask your guests to give you money instead of purchasing a gift, except perhaps to share your honeymoon hopes with the friends and family and hope they get the hint.

Answer 4

Wedding registry rules are so conflicting! It is supposedly rude to suggest that guests get you anything specific. But with a registry, you are telling guests exactly what you want, right down to the style number, your just not saying it to them directly. This makes no sense! You're not supposed to look like you're asking for gifts, but everyone is planning to give you one!

Etiquette rules can change, and I think this is a time when the rule should! Couples should not feel hindered by etiquette to ask for what they really want! So, if you want money for your honeymoon, ask for it! I saw a site where you can put in specifics of your honeymoon....for example, someone could buy your registry item "$50.00 for a bottle of wine our first night at the hotel" or whatever. This way, guests are still buying you something specific, so I don't see how that is different from any other "accepted" kind of registry?

Answer 5

I don't think so at all. I am in my 20's and almost all of my friends who have gotten married recently, have set up similar registries. It is much more convenient for me to give them some cash then try to figure out what combination of things I can afford off of a registry anyway.

Answer 6

I really don't understand why most of the answers on here, think this is such a horrible idea.

As a guest, I want to get the couple whatever it is that they want. If they want money for their honeymoon, I am fine giving them that! What if they just bought a house and they want Home Depot gift cards? Isn't that the same thing? I am also fine giving that. I think it is up to the couple! If you are going to their wedding, and they are spending $50 bucks a head on you, you shouldn't be cranky about giving them some cash to do something that they enjoy. Not everyone enjoys a toaster and measuring spoons!

Plus, it makes it easier to give within my budget, I just give exactly the amount that I can afford. I don't have to wrap it, the couples family doesn't have to cart it around after the wedding, etc.

Answer 7

Yes it would be tacky, a wedding shower or a baby shower is not, because it gives you an idea for a present you may be having trouble picking out....but a honeymoon registry that is not only tacky its ridiculous.

Answer 8

It really depends upon what you mean. If you're calling it a honeymoon registry and asking for a toaster and silverware, that's fine. If it's a honeymoon registry and you're asking for Victoria's Secret fare and the like, I'd suggest sending the registry only to
a few women who are closest to you.

Answer 9

I have never heard of a honeymoon registry but I think it is definitely tacky. If you want to go on a honeymoon so badly then go on one that you can afford. What would you even put on a honeymoon registry, pair of sandals for the beach, lingerie, sunscreen? I mean honestly this seems absolutely absurd to me.

Answer 10

When I got married, I added tons of stuff to my registry because I felt like I was obligated to set something up like that, not ask for what I really wanted....cash for my honeymoon. I would've much preferred $25 to cover lunch one day to cheap vases and crap that people gave us. I would've preferred $100 for a couples massage on our honeymoon, that we would've remembered forever, much longer than some of the crap that we received from guests trying to buy stuff that they thought looked more expensive than it really was. I think the idea of a cash or honeymoon registry, whatever you want to call it, is a great idea!

Answer 11

I've never heard of a honeymoon registry. But I think it would be pretty tacky. You want people to pay for your honeymoon? If you cant afford it dont go on one, or go on one you can afford.