Do guys really care all that much about personality in a woman?

Question

I don't have the perfect model figure. I have a great face and smile, yet guys just don't seem to want to date me. Why do guys seem to only go for the "perfect" (anorexic) women?

Answer 1

I am going to be honest with you. There are factors involved in that question. Age is one. Between the ages of 15-24 I us in heat 24-7, ready to rut like a roaster, and I thought all females were fair game. Then around 24, after having a career established and some of my immaturity wore off, I began to think with my other head. World view has a lot to do with it too. I am a Christian now, but back then I believed that all women were basically sluts and they all just wanted to do it. I got that idea from growing up watch TV, listen to popular rock and rap, and the way society basically is in America; hyper-sexual. As a Christian man, looks are still important, it would be a ly to say they are not. But not nearly as it was before. I could jump into a relationship with a pretty girl having sex within the first week or two and think the sex is good. But, that would be all the relationship is based on because of that. That is why so many people get divorced. They get married while the sex is good, the parties are fun, then reality starts to set in and you find out that you don't really like that person so much. Then the sex life fads away and there is nothing there to keep you together. Just two shallow people who want to find someone new to have fun with again. So looks, yah. You have to be presentable and well kept. But, the brains have to be there. There has to be a common belief system. Because eventually sex isn't what it was when you were younger. I am only 30, and I am speaking from experience. I spent the last 6 years of my life with someone who I jumped into a relationship with. We are polar opposites. We have nothing to keep us together. So yes, I would gladdly sacrifice physical beauty for brains, rational, Christian base, and personality. Looks are good, but even they fad. So at the end of the day you need to be with someone you can trust who loves you for who you are, not what you look like, and who shares the same world view.

Answer 2

I think it has more to do with you having a run of bad luck than all guys going for the perfect model figure. Not all guys like that. The first things that comes to my mind when I see a Barbie is pretty but high maintenance and/or superficial. Good looks only go so far: you could be drop-dead gorgeous & if you have no personality, no sense of humor, take yourself too seriously, etc., there's no chance for a real relationship.

Answer 3

I do not believe this to be true AT ALL. I have plenty of heavy set friends that are in great relationships and have been for the past couple months. I don't think guys only think about a girl being skinny because a lot of guys I know are into girls who have some meat on them. It is unattractive to be anorexic skinny. If you havn't met a guy who is intersted in you yet... just give it time. One will come around who isn't just looking for looks, but looking for the you underneath.

Answer 4

Honey, I do not have an anorexic figure and alot of guys think anorexic looking girls are not healthy. You need to be yourself and be confident in yourself! I used to always think the guys liked my best friend because she was skinny and then i found out at a later time they liked me because I have a pretty face and a very out going, funny personality. Just be you and you will find the person to accept you as you are. Personality makes the person, looks can be purchased.........

Answer 5

its the same for guys.. all this rubbish about how personality is top of the list. the first thing that attracts is looks i dont care what anyone says. personality will come into play only when you know that person. physical appearance first, personality second. you may know someone that isnt attractive to you but you like there personality which may grow on you, but more than half the time its looks first. i cant speak for the others but i dont go for the anorexic type woman. in fact i dont have any particular type, as long as they are nice lol.. irs only my opinion i might be wrong.

Answer 6

At first sight everyone is interested in the attractive looking model figure (even women looking for men). Personally i went after a great personality, face and smile when I was on my long lost search through the single sea. Hope you find your fish in the sea.

Answer 7

At a younger age, guys will go after the physically attractive girls. But right now, when I look at a hot girl, yeah I'm attracted but if I see she has a weak personality, there's no way I try to pursue her. At this point (I'm in college), I want to be able to have real discussion with my girl, not just make out all the time and talk about what someone else did during lunch.

Answer 8

You know what, a lot of 'em don't when they're young. But as they get older, this changes!

But . . . by the way . . . I have yet to meet a guy who thinks an anorexic woman is pretty. Thin ones, sure. But anorexia is NOT attractive.

Answer 9

Personality is HUGE in terms of interest. Have you ever met what appeared to be a good looking person only to find out they are not so very nice? They don't look so good after that discovery. The reverse is true as well.. sometimes you meet someone who may not be the "ideal" beauty-handsome person. But upon closer inspection of their personality, they appear delightful and quite attractive...

Answer 10

Hell yeah we care one of the most important things a girl should have is a great personality. Naa not all guys do that I mean if guys arent asking you out then why dont you make the move and ask a guy out i bet you he will say yes cuz confident is one of the things a girl should have it makes em soo much hotter haha.
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