Personally I don't enjoy it that much, but my partner and I are now on very shakey grounds because apparently he hasn't been getting enough for the past 2 months. It hurts me to think that he's been keeping a mental tally. I love him to bits, why isn't this enough?
2007-01-24 08:55:08 · 28 answers · asked by doofynic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on the relationship. It's more important in some than in others. Obviously there is a disagreement between the two of you as to how much significance should be placed on it. Neither one of you is really wrong or right. It just sounds like the two of you are sexually incompatible.
2007-01-24 09:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Count Acumen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he do for you that he doesn't enjoy that much? Relationships are give and take. 50/50. If you are saying your relationship is shakey only or mainly because you don't give him enough sex, then you can fix that or not. Your choice. If he loves you to bits, is it enough that he doesn't do anything but love you to bits or do you need something, his is sex-what is yours?
2007-01-24 17:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by blwileygp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a fourteen-year-old virgin (sounds catchy for a movie!) but I know a lot about sex and the subject.
Hmm... You don't enjoy it? But he is "keeping a mental tally."
That's interesting.
Well, sex was supposedly for reproducing until some guy invented the "condom" so you can "enjoy sex."
If he thinks sex is that enjoying, then he should go out and buy condoms. But since you don't enjoy it much, you don't need condoms and you don't need sex.
There are a lot of guys posting answers on this but like 99.99% of them are saying "YEAH SEX RULES." Don't believe them.
2007-01-24 17:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by T.VO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their are all type of people so i take my exemple
sex is very very important.
without sex ... during 2 months (ex) the couple is in trouble. i am less tolerant, less patient ... (i love her ! no question !) but she simply gets more on my nerves !!
you must discuss it togheter and find a solution. marking it on a calendar is... critical i think ! but sometimes arguments lead to ... !
maybe you should encourage him to masturbate ?
(not joking !)
very important is that your solution is your solution !! do not look at neighbourgs or the opinion of some "good friends" !!! what suit you suits you. maybe if he goes to prostitutes you don't mind ?? close friends were like this !!! i would never want but ... it was their solution ! and they live happy for over 10 years !
bottom line : no solution but if he says it is impoirtant then TO HIM IT IS IMPORTANT. deal with it or face serious and repeated arguments.
good luck to you 2
2007-01-24 17:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by tomcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its the "most important' thing in a relationship because if that is all it is is sex then on a "cold" winter day there would be nothing else. I believe being able to share other things is more important and if he thinks it should be all about the sex, then I'd get rid of him and find someone who is willing to listen to your feelings.
2007-01-24 17:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by redy2screm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a very sexual guy on your hands! For him it is very possible that sex is away to show love..i know strange.. but that is how i look at it. if our sex life sucks than the rest of our relationship suffers also. Ask him how he feels about it and also maybe you should figure out what will truly turn you on and make you want it more. maybe he just isn't doing it for you??
2007-01-24 17:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem too young to have slipped into the wedding cake syndrom. Once women set their hooks they feel they can stop providing.
Men need sex and can do without the romance
Women need romance and can do without the sex.
If you cannot provide him what he wants or needs, he will go elsewhere. The best you can do, since you stated you do not like it, is to find someone else. This relationship is going to hell in a handbasket.
2007-01-24 17:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jim R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to work out why you don't really enjoy it much.is it that you don't like it or are there other problems in your relationship?people have different libidos and if this is causing problems Now just think how it will be in 5 years or so!love should be enough but to some people it isnt.
2007-01-25 03:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Not really in a relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend. One thing might happen if your man doesn't wear a condom and you might get pregant so that's one reason you shouldn't have sex during a relationship but If you and him get married you and him can have all the sex you want. Ok!
2007-01-24 17:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by dukerules78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are actually addicted to sexual things!! They get turned on really easily and cannot help it! So maybe he feels that you don't understand how much of this kind of pleasure that he needs. Other than that you should really explain to him, that you are not that comfortable with it! If he loves you then he will understand.
2007-01-24 17:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by keely! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋