Ive been dating a wonderful girl for 2 years now I am a senior in college she is a sophmore, after the end of this year i want to ask her to marry me, but we may end up in different citys for a few years. My question is should i pop the question or just see how it plays out, im afriad if i dont ask we may not work being 100 miles apart, but if i do we will last, but will have a lonely few years what should i do? btw is 21 to young to get enganged? if it is what age is more appropriate?
2007-01-24 08:49:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's quite a burden to lay on a single question.
Unless you believe that her answer will be NO, you should ask her NOW, don't wait for the end of the semester. But, you should be prepared to address other issues at the same time.
- It may take 1 year to plan the wedding unless you guys are going to elope. Think long engagement.
- You need to be prepared to explain to her what marriage means to you. You know, all that time that comes AFTER the wedding.
- You should be prepared to state your thinking on quite a few different topics:
1. Job location and city of residence; that's a soon thing for you to determine.
2. Where does your family live and where does hers live.
3. Religion, children, in-laws and the like.
As you can see, her answer to your question is not likely to be just a simple YES. Put some thought to it.
2007-01-24 08:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister got engaged at 20 and dis-engaged at 24. The problem with getting engaged so young is that you don't know what is going to happen over the next few years. You may end up on totally different career paths, and end up changing a lot of your worldview. Also, people change a lot during college and during the first few years out of college, when they actually have to support themselves and find a job/enter the workforce. If the relationship is meant to be, it'll survive the long-distance without an engagement.
And if it is not meant to be, then it wouldn't make it whether you got engaged or not, but popping the question would set you up for an awful lot of heartbreak.
Wait until you've both supported yourselves for a few years, and then decide if she is the one.
2007-01-24 16:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down, you know if it is the right time. Don't ask her just because you may be moving to different cities. If your relationship can withstand the distance, then you were meant to be. Whether you are engaged or not, the 2 years will be very difficult, but just think of how nice it will be when you are both finished with college and you spend the rest of your lives together. I don't think 21 is too young. Just listen to your heart.
Good luck
2007-01-24 16:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by rachel_ksr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the chance....you never know until you try....both of your paths in life can change when a decision like this is made. If you truly love each other then it will work out, you will both need to make sacrifices, but that is what love and making a marriage is all about. Good Luck
2007-01-24 16:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should wait for a while becuz she still is in college. If i was you i would talk 2 her about what her future palns are and what does she see you two in a couple of years from now. read her signs. also 21 is not to young, you have ur life together it seems so it should be fine. trust yourself and good luck. i hope i help
2007-01-24 16:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her when you are both ready. Find a secure job first. Love flys out of the window when you have an empty stomach.She is still studying so let her finnish first then you can ask her to marry you and wait till you are both financially ready.before you plunge into it. Marriage is no joke.
2007-01-24 17:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you. If you cannot live without this woman in your life no matter how far or near, then ask her. If you can be without her for a few years and not know that she belongs to you then it might not work.
2007-01-24 16:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say run away from the idea of marriage. But I'm 29 and have the experience to say that. So down thumb me all you want people. Do not propose on Valentines. Every moron and their brother does that. Don't do it in public. Sometimes it works and sometimes it just puts her in an uncomfortable position. So its your call.
Ahem......RUN
2007-01-24 16:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ben B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid! You love this girl and want her to be your wife then go for it. What's 100 miles??? 2 hour drive to see your wife!
2007-01-24 16:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by yaiyai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tough one...you do you could be lonely for a while ....you don't you could lose her... 21 is not too young and you two have been together a while...not sure what to tell you in this case...
go with your heart
2007-01-24 16:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mary S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋