what do i do if my daughters rapist approaches?

Question

this person isn,t long out of jail but my two daughters are terrified they bump into him

Answer 1

A victim should NEVER have to accommodate their offender to spare themselves. The best thing to do is depart the area of which you see him.

Document the event and keep it stored away for future reference.

Contact the District Attorneys Office which prosecuted the case and obtain the advise from them as far as your recourse in the future.

In most cases a part of the court order is no contact with the victim. If you find that's the case....press charges again!

There is nothing in the world I could equate your childrens fear with, even as often as I myself investigate these type cases. However, as a father myself, I know the distress this can cause you and your daughters.

Do NOT let this thug intimidate you....hold your heads high and show no fear.

In hopes this helps....best wishes!

Answer 2

Since, by your statement, " not long out of jail " I'm guessing that the guy has a Court Ordered " NO CONTACT " against him. So, if this guy comes within say a hundred yards of any family member all you have to do is dial 911 and his butt goes back to jail. Under the United States Supreme Court a law was passed that states when a person is convicted of an aggrevated offense against another person, upon being released from incarceration that person automatically is restrained from ANY contact with the victim. So if this guy comes anywhere near a family member or calls, or by a third party, he can wind up in a lot of trouble. I might suggest that you call and find out who his parole/probation officer is and contact them for info about whether or not there is an order of protection, If not, someone screwed up and you need to get on top of it. When or if you call his parole/probation officer you may request that HE make it clear that the offender is not to have ANY contact in ANY manner with ANY FAMILY MEMBER!! you can also call your local police department to find out if in fact there is an order of protection or restraining order. My heart goes out to you and your family. GOD BLESS/GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 3

Keep them away from this person. If he is stalking them that is a different story, call the Police. I know what I would do If I was to bump into a person who had raped my daughter. But I don't want to incriminate myself on line.
Good Luck and Bless your daughters.

Answer 4

I know first hand what to do.
You teach your children to trust their instinct. Give them the confidence and power no matter their age that I can be "strong" with a group of people that love us.

Know that in the "law's eye" he served his time and is now a free man, on some level "forgive him" to release this person for only yourself. You are right, he is still dangerous- its proven that sexual predotars are seldom rehabilitated, yet they prey on fear more than anything. So teach your girls how to NOT FEAR and NOT TRUST a stranger.

You have to teach them to release "pain and fear". He will not seek them out. Most times they do not want or wish to do that.
He will be registered Sex offender. Most States and Cities have them listed. He has no rights of privacy.

You (the parent) can look him up on the computer so that YOU can know where he is listed. The thing is you must teach them to live and grow with out knowing anything else about this person.

If this person is a family member then you must "Cut those ties" . I told mine that there is no way "by blood" or not-The value of my life is worth more than his and I have the strength to live without them. It offended many, since some never believed me, since I too was a child (13) and they thought it was just for attention.
His 18 months in jail I pray changed his life, it did mine.

I am a better person because of this- its hard to realize this (when in the moment). As a woman, daughter and then a better Mother and Wife. It inspired me to be a Minister.

Yes, I did run into him again, he was a car valet at a fancy restruant- he literally opened my car door to let me out- I was 24 at the time and he did not know me- I was a woman now- I calmly got out walked to the dinner table with a weird pit of fear in my stomach. I called my mother from the payphone in the bathroom-she was sitting at the table. SHOCKED- she did not realize it was him, he was older and balding. I told her and I had to do something- because I was now angry. I went a sat at the dinner table and realized that I had to remain calm and normal.
We ate dinner and got our car and I stared at him as he closed the door. I never said a word, he never figured it out.

I did cry that night- since then- I have felt free. Life does go on.
We heal and learn. I was a victim once, never again. I am not prey. I am free from that pain and I pray yours will be soon.

Answer 5

First of all ,if the person was convicted of a sex crime against a child, he or she is a registered sex offender and must comply with the conditions of parole. Also, you need to contact the District Attorney's Office or who prosecuted the case and ask them about the perp's parole conditions! Good Luck

Answer 6

WTF? If I was you and I heard this MF was out of jail, I'd be hiding with a rifel waiting for his ***! Hello he ruined there lives!! and in turn caused you pain and agony that no parent wants to go through. How old are your daughters? Buy them each a tazer (if I spelled it right) a good one is about $50. one with about 100,000 volts that has a key attached to a hoop they can keep around their wrist so if he takes it from them it stops working.
You have more self restraint than I ever will, God bless your family and I pray that your daughters find inner peace after the pain they have suffered.

Answer 7

As an officer:

Let the law handle it and don't step in between. He will be punished and labeled for the rest of his life as a sex offender.

As a father:

Pray to God that he doesn't cross your path. Pieces of **** like that deserve more than a swift hand. Make sure that you're not caught. If you are, fight for justifiable homicide or temporary insanity.

Good Luck and God Bless

**I work for free in cases like this**

Answer 8

you should be able to get some kind of EPO or restraining order on him. i would think. if he comes near them call the cops and he goes back to jail. rapists are not given a tough enough sentence anyway, i don't think.

Answer 9

Be prepared to use force...lethal force. There is nothing a rapist deserves more than a bullet behind the ear and a shallow grave.

Answer 10

Be prepared to defend them with all necessary force. Also, notify the Police of the incident.