My boyfriend gets jealous whe I dress SEXY?? HELP?

Question

I am a very stylish girl, I wear somewhat "sexy" clothes, but not trashy, and not all the time, but when i do he thinks im trying to find a better man, I mean...what do I do, he says im the prettist girl hes ever had and he doesnt want to lose me, but hes pushing me away, we've been together 4 years and I think he should trust me,

Answer 1

Keep dressing sexy; he should appreciate it, not hate it!

I love how my gal Melrose dresses really sexy all the time. She has a great body (natural 36DD, tight butt, indented waist, lovely legs, and beautiful face) and it shows. She loves to look really hot for me by wearing a short skirt (no panties), garter belt and stockings, high heeled boots, and a very tight & low cut top. Guys look at her all the time when we are out; it does not bother me though because I know my Melrose only wants my big stick and no others.

Answer 2

Think about it, why DO you wear somewhat sexy clothes. When you put them on do they make you feel good about your body and yourself? Or is there the image of you walking out and a pair of nice guy eyes following you in the back of your mind? If it's the latter, then I wouldn't say that there's anything wrong with that, as long as it's not in extravagance and you don't try to act upon it!

Your guy should trust you, it's been four years, and there's been no reason to not trust, right? Sit him down and tell him that you understand that he doesn't like it when you wear 'sexy' clothes but explain to him that when he assumes your motive, it makes you feel like you don't trust him, and it feels like he's pushing you away. Tell him that there's no need for him to be jealous and you just wear the clothes you wear because you like the way you look in them (ONLY if that's the reason).

Then, if you want, devote a special day for him! Dinner, then dress up 'sexy' just for him!

Answer 3

Ahha i c , i ve got similar prob ,chuckle, still wot i d suggest is DONT STOP Dressin Sexy if U dont want to cus ultimately it wont let u forgive him n u d avenge in some other manner n ur lovey doveyness d be harmed in the long run by these small compromises, the question is not The Dressin up but upto wot limit u compromise right? Ur relationship could take on d next level if u could make him honestly aware of how it is for u n this pushes u away frm him (which u also dont want ) rather than makin u feel like HIS GIRL.Instead if he trusted u n respected ur individuality n be proud of havin a sexy , beautiful girlfriend IT would make u FEEL ever Closer.But don judge him n treat his insecurity with a lot of love but dont give in to his weakness as well>Best of luck n lemme know if it helped:)

Answer 4

It sounds like it might not be the clothes that are the problem. You think quite highly of yourself and your looks ("my perfect size 4 curvy body" and "they are just really dowdy and when I come they get nervous because they can't believe I can look this good and get my work done") so that attitude could be seen by your co-workers as stuck up. I don't know if you are or aren't stuck up but thos couple of comments sound sort of conceited so if you don't like them talking about you either dress down or lose the attitude. Maybe you're hotter than all your co-workers, maybe you're not. Change your attitude and I bet they will too.

Answer 5

This is exactly my situation !
i will give you a solution ! the question is not who is right because it is obviously you. but couple life is like this... sometimes one is responsible, yet the other must still make the effort so ... let's start.


i am jealous and it is like when i am hungry ...instinct ... not logic.

so telling him you do it for him is usless !!! he will not understand ! i am sure you already said that and their is no result ! he doesn't understand. (we are stupid sometimes ! specially with our woman !)

he likes it (everybody likes to see his beatifull woman !) but when other guys look at you or start speaking to you, specially maybe dance with you (i do not know your situation, i do not allow my gf to dance with another guy, i usually tell the guy to dance with he's own gf ) so whatever you must reassure him by touching him or showing him he counts more than any other !!! talk to him, touch him, make him a sign or anything like this.

then explain him everything on other man aproaching you ... slowely you will gain his confidence.

in 2 years you will be ok. and quickly you should feel a difference.

believe me i am jealous and this is a very good trick.

good luck to you 2 and KEEP DRESSING SEXY he likes it do not worry. do not stiffle your feminity and make him look at another girl !!

Answer 6

I think it depends on WHEN you dress sexy.. if you're dressing sexy when he's not around, uum yeah i'd be jealous too... but if you're dressing sexy for him, or when you're with him, then it shouldn't matter and he should be LOVING it. so you two just need to compromise.. only wear your best attire when you're together, that way he knows he's got the prettiest girl! and when your not with him, it's ok to be casual because you're not looking for another guy anyway... good luck! :)

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Tell him that all girls are different and this is who you are. Explain to him that trying to change a person's style or personality is killing who you are as an individual. This doesn't mean you will disrespect or embarrass him.

Answer 9

do you only dress sexy when you're in public?? he might think you're doing it for the attention.
as a taken woman you do need to dress more conservatively and not draw as much attention to your body when youa re with someone. respect him and yourself and your relationship.

Answer 10

he has confidence issue's he may need some professional help. If not professional help some thing needs to be done. And it seems as if he doesn't trust you or he has been hurt badly before.