I lied to my Boyfriend about being a virgin?

Question

what should i do

Answer 1

You are implying that he will be able to tell you lied when you first have intercourse. This may not be the case. A hymen can get ruptured any number of ways, by playing sports or riding a horse for example.

You could probably get away with not telling him. But I think you should just for the sake of honesty in the relationship.

Answer 2

damn. that sucks. well, if you actually see this relationship lasting more than a month, you have to tell him. it's a double edge sword though, because you've already raised the expectations for you (being pure and untouched) and for him (being the one who got to be your first) and once you tell him, you'll be letting him down twice. not to mention that he'll see you as a whore-he might have not even have thought twice had you told him the truth about it before, he might not even have cared. but since you made it a point to put your virginity on a pedestal, this idea he has of it will be tarnished.

because you lied about this, no matter how many people you tell him you've been with before, he will always (as long as you two are together) wonder if you're telling the truth, or if you in fact have slept with an entire army.

now if you only see the relationship going a month or less, i say don't say anything.

Answer 3

I think you should tell him. Be honest with everyone that you mean it naive to sensor urself for anyone. Be true and let the rest of the world take it as they may. if its bathering you tell him. Get rid of the useless stress that it is creating. and If he loves or cares about you he won't make a big deal about it. However be ready to also tell him in a sensetive way some not all of the details when u lost ur virginity.

Answer 4

Tell him the truth. You shouldn't be embarrassed about that at all. If anything you should be proud. Your boyfriend will respect you for it. Being a virgin is not a bad thing. I'm sure he won't be mad at all.

Answer 5

Granted, he won't be able to tell if you are a virgin or not the first time you have sex, as not all women bleed their first time.

But you should tell him the truth and end the cycle of lying now.

Answer 6

Tell him the truth. You shouldn't have lied about something like that in the first place. He will lose trust in you.

Answer 7

u should sit him down n talk 2 him n tell him the truth. but y would u lie about sumthing so serious? this is sumthin guys HATE to be lied about to. i think u made a BIG mistake n u needa take care of it ASAP cus i think he's gonna flip once u tell him. best of luck!

Answer 8

me too!!!!! :'(

if its for the long term eventually we'll have to tell them. i mean personally i think i can live with that in my conscious just for the sake of saving us because this will be devastating to him i know.
but deep down i know its not the right thing to do and we haven't even had sex yet so i think i'm going to wait and see if we are going to last as long as i want us to. our situation is extremely delicate right now and dropping a bomb on him like that will utterly destroy the both of us. i can feel it.
but for his sake i will work up the courage to tell him the truth because sex is something really important to him and i cannot lie to him in that way.
but i think i have to wait for the right moment because what if nothing works out between us? i dont want us to fall apart and leave him with such a 'whorific' memory of me .... even though i brought it upon myself. :s

i dont know.

'secrets secrets are no fun, secrets secrets hurt someone'........

Answer 9

This is serious to a guy. He will not trust you and he may even call you a hoe or slut to his friends. Thats hows boys are. Your best bet is to not sleep with him and the next boy you meet...don't be a liar sweetheart. Just be honest.

Answer 10

Tell him u forgot about this 1 time. That way u can tell him the truth and he wont hate u! (no garantees thou) All on u girl!