I don't like being around my mother-in-law and sister-in-law. I don't hate them, but I don't enjoy their company. I've been with my husband for 9 years - in the beginning his family hated me. Now they supposedly like me, but I'm kind of "over them." We are often invited to dinners at their house or my husband invites them to ours. I'd prefer not to hang out with them, but my husband insists that I go. I tell him that I am happy he enjoys their company and I encourage him to go alone, but he insists that I go too so we can be some big happy family. I insist that I really am not interested and would rather have dinner with some friends or stay home and catch up on chores/reading/etc. How can I keep the peace with my husband and also stay away from my in-laws except for on major holidays?
2007-01-24 08:24:29 · 8 answers · asked by SixEldest 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You really can't, and if you do you are going to create more problems for you and your husband if you ignore their invitations. Maybe ask your husband if you guys can not go as often, but definitely do not stay behind unless you are sick. Don't prove them right about you and start acting as if you are too good to be around them. Just suck it up, and stand by your husband.
2007-01-24 08:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with your husband and try to come to a compromise. My husband and I use to live in the same city as both families. We split up the holidays evenly, then we each could choose 3 or 4 family events per year that we wanted the other to come to, all others were optional. You probably can't get out of all family events, but you shouldn't be expected to accept EVERY invitation.
2007-01-24 19:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can I keep the peace with my husband and also stay away from my in-laws except for on major holidays?
You can't. Go. They are family. Try not to be so selfish. They are his family and now yours. How do you "get over" family? Maybe they just aren't important to you which is a real isnult to your husband.
2007-01-24 16:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
show him this question you have asked, and then sit down and talk about it, tell him it makes you uncomfortable, maybe you could settle on holidays and a couple times every other month or something, plan outings instead of going to there home good luck, it really is a difficult question
2007-01-24 16:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him enough, you'll just buck up and do it. I f*cking hate my inlwas too. I've thought about slitting his dads throat when things were really bad. Now it can't be worse than that. It might make him look bad, and his family may drill him about why your not there. Maybe he feels disrespected if you hang back.
2007-01-24 16:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you'll go, otherwise your marriage will end in divorce, because the two of you WILL fight about you not caring about his family. If he wants you to be a part of his family, do it for him. They may be different, give them a chance. I hated my brothers wife and she hated me and now we are good friends. Be a bigger person and go for your huband.
2007-01-24 16:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Juicy Fruit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it makes your husband happy it wouldn't kill you to try to get along with his family.
2007-01-24 16:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by DL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce him, then he won't ask to visit the family.... or just get along, bring the book with you.
2007-01-24 16:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋