Sometimes, my boyfriend will either make me cry in an arguement every now and then or i'll cry about something in general, and he gets a ***** on the spot while trying to console me..?? Men, do any of you have this problem?...does this mean he has some kind of creepy issues?! HELP!!
2007-01-24 08:21:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is his protective instinct. This happens to my BF - he does not make me cry purposely but when I do, flag's a flyin. it turns me on and I stop crying.
2007-01-24 08:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh hahahah.... I'm sorry. I can't help but laugh at this.
No, no such problem for me.
But makes me think of the song "A Lap Dance is So Much Better When the Stripper is Crying" by The Bloodhound Gang.
2007-01-24 08:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe being so close to you is turning him on, or the feeling of being your protector when he consoles you is doing it for him. As long as he is not making you cry just to get off there really isn't a problem.
2007-01-24 08:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds weird to me...I would never intentionally make a girl cry and then get excited because I did...he should be treating you better and not getting to the point of making you cry in the first place. He should be getting excited by holding you, and making you happy!
2007-01-24 08:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol I can relate. the other day I was crying into my ex's arms (not crying about the fact that we had just broken up, crying about something else) and he was holding me, and i noticed he had a hard-on. I think it was because of the fact that I was vulnerable, and that my body was pretty much pressed againsed his. Men get off on anything, and if he was holding you, it was probably because of that, not because you were crying. You may have been inadvertantly rubbing against his cock and he enjoyed the feeling.
2007-01-24 08:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lady K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This man sounds like he has SCARY power issues if he gets aroused by observing other people's pain and emotional distress, especially when he's inflicting that distress himself, and on a woman he's supposed to love and care for. A good man shouldn't "make you cry" in arguments, period, much less get excited by it.
I'd run like hell before he escalates from just emotional manipulation like this to genuinely sadistic behavior. He sounds like he's got some WEIRD wiring in that head of his.
2007-01-24 08:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Guernica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can hope that he's getting off on consoling you instead of upsetting you, but I think that it's flat out creepy.
2007-01-24 08:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not weird and there is nothing wrong with him...there is a song like that..I dont know if you know Neyo the R&B singer..where in it he says that seeing his girlfiend mad makes him wanna take of her clothes..just the way her nose frown and the look on her face...he wants to sex her all over the place...i personally think its sexy when a woman crys and the man gets a hard on or wants to sex her...its call feminity..sometimes seeing a woman weak is a trun on for a man..embrace it..s h i t I know I would...enjoy!!!
2007-01-24 08:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea thats kinda werid gurly, i would ask him about it, i mean that is a weird fetish. I think it could be the fact that he thinks he has control over your emotions, it makes him feel like hes the man and that turns him on, but you crying?? Thats not healthy
2007-01-24 08:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think...they just get scared and dont know what to do and if thats not it then creepy issues
2007-01-24 08:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋