Sexual Arousal?

Question

I've been with my bf for almost a year now, but lately things between me and him sexually arent as they used to be. If he touches me in certain areas, I get really annoyed and he knows it...I don't want to have sex, im never in the mood for it, the only thing I like to do with him is cuddle. Its almsot as if im not sexually attracted to him anymore :/

Im a 23/f , im not a smoker, im not on any anti-depressants or any other kind of pills, im not that big of a drinker, I would say I am under alot of stress though lately. I don't get enough sleep even if i sleep for more then 12 hours.

So what im asking is, is there ways to improve this state of mind im in. If he tries to hit on me or hint towards "going to bed" I just go "tsssk", etc. I dont want to do nothing with him sexually, and its starting to get to both of us I think.. I love him dearly, hes my everything, but sex drive has gone way down. I don't know what happened, but I need help here on some ideas to spark things up.

This doesnt happen with just him, its happened in the past with my ex's around the same time-frame. Is it normal to feel this way only after a year?

He also hints and hits on me every day, which I think could be a prime target becasue you know if you hear something along the same lines so many times it just gets boring and tiring..

We've tried different positions, different places, but even the thought of that doesnt even fiss me. I try to get into it, but alot of the times its just in my mind an automatic "No" and I just shut him out.. im not sure why.. hes a great guy. He treats me like gold and hes very attractive (to me) but he nor I can just seem to arouse myself into having sexual contact with him.

Any (mature, sensible) feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

maybe you want to do another girl ??? you should try it - do another girl while he watches - I know i would love it

Answer 2

since you dont find any physical reason its logical to guess your problem is psychological. Or there is a chance that you are not physically well. Unhelathy body too can cause disinterest in sex.
So go to a doc n have a check up n make sure everythig is okay physically. And no sex doesnt die after one year...it just gets better by that time.

Healthy women of your age have no reason why you should lack interest in sex if not bcoz of mental stress or underlying porblems. I think you go meet a professional and sort things out. A psychologist will be able to dig out what are the reasons which are killing your interest in sex. Bcoz female psychie is like long term disinterest in sexuality can lead to sexual frigidity i.e total aversion to sex. Since you said the relation is so important, its worth seking professional help.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Ok, you need a leaf blower, some jumper cables, a roll of duct tape, 4 4X4 cedar posts, 10 ft of surgical hose, a maglite, and four peacock feathers.

You're not in Rhode Island are you, I believe this illegal in Rhode Island.

How much do you weigh? You don't have a pace maker do you?

Hmm, I will need to have you sign a release before I tell how to get in the mood.

Answer 4

1) you need to see a doctor and have a proper check up.
2) Take a vacation because you are stressed out. ie) Try Cayo Coco, Cuba.
3) You need 1 & 2 cleared up becasue having great sex again.

Answer 5

I think that you are depressed and have a attachment disorder. You should talk to a theripist since this has happened before this is a pattern for you. It probably has something to do with something that has happened in your past.A theripist can help you work through this. Good luck

Answer 6

Sex is normal just deal with it, it doesn't hurt. You should also talk him over about it and maybe the sex thing will work out.

Answer 7

Sounds like you need someone new every once in a while.Sorry.