This guy and I have been really good friends for two years, and I don't want to ruin this relationship with a romance. He has recently admitted to developing feelings for me, and they started to make me like him a little.
I'm usually a very logical person...not emotional. I want to go out with him (well not really, really want to, but I would), but I'm scared of the consequences. I really don't want to ruin this friendship.
What do you think?
2007-01-24 07:58:46 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also really don't want to be friends with benefits AFTER we break up. I want his either as a boyfriend or a friend. No inbetweens to complicate things.
Also, I'm scared the relationship won't work. None of my relationships have lasted very long.
2007-01-24 08:09:34 · update #1
There is always the possiblity of you losing a friend. I would say if you dont have strong feels for him keep it as friends. In the end you will be better of and so will he, he just won't see that right now. I am going through this now but I decided to start dating my best friend and now we are currently growing apart and not talking. I would give anything to take back my decision to date him. I lost a best friend and got a 6 month rocky relationship out of it. I guess it all comes down to how you feel and keep in mind that you maybe come out of it without a best friend in the end....its not an easy situation theres is no easy answer.
Good luck!
2007-01-24 08:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sam s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tough call because if it works out you'll have the best relationship ever, but if it doesn't then your right it can ruin a friendship. But thing of this...he's already made the step so your friendship may be in a bit of trouble now...what if you don't go out and he gets jealous of other boyfriends.
Best advise I can give is to talk it through first...discuss the consequences and decide together if you can manage through dating and then back to friends...if you can't then you need to decide your next step. I've dated best friends and we are still best friends to this day. It is not always a bad thing, but you need to be clear upfront and look at what might happen.
2007-01-24 16:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best relationships start with friendship. Take a chance. You may be surprised. If it doesn't work then it will be weird for a while, but the friendship can come back. Perhaps stronger for having gone through a rough patch.
Look at it from the other side. How long can you two stay friends while keeping all these feelings pent up?
2007-01-24 16:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take things very slowly and go with how you are feeling. If you feel that you cannot have a long term relationship with this man then just keep him as a friend; if you feel that there is a possiblity of this going some where, then try the relationship. Friends many times make the best partners.
2007-01-24 16:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Quest4questions 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things very slowly so neither of you gets overwhelmed and each of you has the opportunity to proceed comfortably with the direction in which things are going. If you throw all your cards on the table right away, there's a greater chance that your head will be in the clouds and possibly make a hasty decision to take a step you're not ready for. Good luck to you :) Friendship should be tantamount to a good loving relationship.
2007-01-24 16:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Story of my life, right there. I think that you should just roll with it... if you like him a little, just wait until he asks you out, and say yes. Don't make the move yourself. Just relax. If he likes you, he'll date you eventually.
In the mean time, talk to a friend about it... or someone that you can trust. It helps. And if he's really a great friend, he won't let you dating him affect your friendship. Just let him know that you think he's a great person, and tell him (if he asks you out) that you don't wanna see your friendship fall apart. He'll understand.
2007-01-24 16:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Hoofle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I actually dated one of my best friends about 10 years ago. We started off pretty good, but it just got ugly so we broke up. We didn't talk for a short while, I don't know how long, but we are still friends today, though not best friends. So, it just depends on you and how you think it will turn out.
2007-01-24 16:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by LOS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a really good guy friend for a couple of years, we ended up hooking up a dated for almost 4 years... well things went sour( not a bad breakup but we did) and now we barely speak...
its very hard to remain good friends with ur ex
2007-01-24 16:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by blue121 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could date him and have a wonderul relationship and when u split it is awkward for a while but you will go back to being friends again or you could go out with him and it ends nastily ending your friendship
i dated a good friend and we were together for a while and wen we split it was a bit awkward but we stayed friends this was mainly because we had agreed to stay friends after we split which you should to if you decide to date your friend
good luck
2007-01-24 16:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by Blackcurrant2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it
Friendships can grow into wonderful relationships
2007-01-24 16:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋