fell in love. with a bad guy. i loved him. i got to know the truth (he was a liar) and still loved him. but hope was fading. i got disappointed. again and again. he was taking other directions (dating), letting me wait for him just to be sure he had love. i knew i had to loose hope. completely. no chance to think or work properly for months. sadness and trying to quit this impossible love. he was still holding on to me. i somehow seemed unable to give up completely. but the bigger disillusion and disappointments grow, the better i know i have to quit this way. he seems to really like and kind of love me too. but i'm too much hurt now, to admit love anymore. to let him have any hope. now it's me who's giving little hints like what a bad guy he is. if he asks me a serious relationship-based question, i'm ironic and unclear. things get more and more hard. still i love him. it's alright to quit, isn't it?
2007-01-24 07:51:54 · 41 answers · asked by india18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dumb not to !!!
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2007-01-24 07:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's all right to quit but don't play the same games he played with you. I know revenge is a strong temptation but be the bigger person and just let go. Holding on will only bring back hurt eventually. He is only interested now because you seem distant, he's dangling bait trying to reel you back in. Go find someone better and next time act like you're interviewing someone for a job questions first.
2007-01-24 08:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Until you can completely forgive all that he did to you (physical and/or emotional) and you can learn to trust him again I think you'd be setting yourself up for chaos if you continue to have any type of relationship with him. Take your time, have a "life" and go on about it without him, if your love for each other is sincere, then eventually you'll both be able to come around, and you will wholeheartedly will give him the opportunity to redeem himself.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-24 07:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by prttychk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a serious question? I can't tell whether you're a troll, or just a girl with terrible writing skills.
If the latter, by all means ditch him. There are too many ladies out there dating jerks. Go look for a kind-hearted, honest man, unless you're one of those who are drawn to date jackasses, just because they're cute...
2007-01-24 07:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by Rusty Shackleford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you had so many details, I have a racing mind today . About Love thou, I have never found it, when I thought I had it, it went away before I could keep it. I don't hold my breath for it anymore. And don't think I'm lovable be any human. It's the one thing I've gone without most if not all my life before recently accepting Jesus has always loved me.
2007-01-24 08:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by iamME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are faced with the ever-difficult lose-lose proposition. Stay with him and lose, leave him and lose. Thus, you must find in yourself the ability to set your emotions aside and evaluate which loss is worse.
Stay with him and lose your heart, your respect (not merely self, but respect of others, as you will be tarred with his brush), and maybe even your life.
Dump him and lose what you really wanted. Dump him, and you are forced to admit to yourself that you screwed up and made a bad choice, and let yourself want something you won't have.
One of those is facing the truth and involves temporary pain. The other is continuing in the lies and involves long term pain, maybe permanent pain.
Choose wisely.
2007-01-24 08:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was OK to leave after the first lie. Your "love" was blind to the emotional homicide he was perpetrating on your soul. Did you not feel this? How can you say that you love someone who does this? You cannot set your desires so low that you only wind up with bad guys. You will sentence yourself to a life of misery. If you are in a hole, for your sake, stop digging!
2007-01-24 08:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, It's okay to quit because you don't want to change who you are just because he wasn't right, and by staying in the relationship when you know your not happy, your not being honest. Learn whatever this was suppose to teach you and move on you will feel much better.
2007-01-24 08:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, quitting sounds like the healthy option. Cut him loose, don't talk to him, don't give him hope or let him give you hope. Find a nice guy who isn't going to walk all over you.
2007-01-24 07:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation and am quite young myself. I generally play by "If you have 5 good days & 2 bad days" It's worth it if it's the other way around then dump his ***! It's worked for me. Yes it's okay to quit..
2007-01-24 07:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Ailyx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a smart girl I say continue with what you are doing you have to slowly back out of this one. Your feelings will soon fade and the tables will turn, Trust! Good luck.
2007-01-24 07:56:40 · answer #11 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋