2007-01-24 07:47:11 · 39 answers · asked by colleen M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. Their house their rules. The only other option is to move out.....
2007-01-24 07:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are living under their roof, and if they didn't really want you living by their rules, they would have already kicked you out! Your parents deserve respect when it comes to the idea of you over age living in their home. I may sound old fashioned I'm 22 and yet still respect my parents home while i'm there, sometimes it's a drag but thats life, if you respect them, they will respect you as well. If you really dislike the idea of them telling you what to do while living in same roof, suggestion: move out!
2007-01-24 08:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by greenhousethugz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. The parent is still providing a place to live and the 18 year old should respect their rules.
2007-01-24 07:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by DL 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is absolutely okay for the parents to still be THE authority figure in that child's life if he/she is living in their house (or with their monetary support). Explain to that child that while they are still living with (or off of) Mom and Dad then they need to respect the boundaries place in front of them.
On the flip side, an 18 year old should have slightly more freedom than he/she did when they were in middle school...but not as much as a single college kid in an apartment. You have to find the right balance for your family.
2007-01-24 07:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by Woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. If you don't want to do as your parent tells you then move out. In my family we have Always had this rule----"if you live under my roof you do as I say". Now, maybe if you started to pay your parent rent & bought food & helped with the bills & stuff then things would be differnet.
2007-01-24 08:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ghost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - and at 18 I would hope any person living with his/her parents would have learned enough respect to WANT to do what the parents desire. Of course, I wouldn't expect the parents of an 18 year old to be telling him/her when to shower or how to wear his/her hair! But rules set for the safety of all family members, and for the comfort of the parents (they deserve that by now!), should be happily obeyed.
You might want to define what kinds of things they are telling the 18 yr old to do.
2007-01-24 08:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by eurovac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble but yes, they do have the right to tell you what to do. Everything in life has it's own set of rules and to live there you have to follow the rules. My boss tells me what to do while I'm working, I can refuse and lose my job. You can refuse to follow your parents wishes but you might end up homeless. 18 years old is not considered to be an adult in some states you must be 21. If I were you I wouldn't be in such a rush to make my own rules. You will find that grown-ups have more restrictions and rules to follow. I have 2 sons 35 and 32 years old, I still tell them what to do and they do it.
2007-01-24 08:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Cynthia R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh wow that sounds like me....when I turned 18 I thought I could do anything..but no I was wrong..if your living under their roof still you have to abide by their rules..They still pay for everything. If you were paying rent now that would be a different story.
2007-01-24 07:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No matter what age the child is, the *roof* still belongs to mom and dad, and the rules still apply.... NOW, I do believe in compromise of sorts, so you need to sit down with mom and dad a with RESPECT ask them what rules they could possibly change to suit your new adult status... Husbanc and I now have all 3 of our grown sons living with us, for reasons I will not go into, but I find it hard to live with 5 adults under 1 roof.... their actions disturb our peacefull little world, but we also love them all, so we have set aside a few of the rules, to allow for their ADULT stautus, but there are some we will NOT compromise on because we just refuse to go back in time to THEIR ways or bring back the *good ole times* .......... God bless
2007-01-24 07:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is right because you are still under their roof so you have to follow their rules.
2007-01-27 22:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Authority. is the key word. No matter how old you may be, it is only wise to submit yourself to your parents' authority. This, then is transfered from authority to respect as to receive advise.
They are taking the best decisions they can for you, so you stay humble and obey as long as they give reasonable orders or set acceptable rules.
Kids nowadays tend to asume they know what they want without their parents involved, and where does this lead? Look at the young people that don't accept direction and leadership from the parents. The majority are pittyful.
Be wise, and you won't regret it... Ever.
God Bless.
2007-01-24 07:49:35 · answer #11 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋