Getting over a crush.?

Question

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So my crush went out of town for a month a month ago and now he is back. While he was gone i kinda stopped liking him.
Now that he is back I think my feelings are coming back but im not sure. I kinda feel sick about him, like i feel like i kinda dislike him yet i still have feelings for him. It's weird. I think i was trying to MAKE myself hate him and it started to work but now that he is back it's not working anymore. I deleted him from his myspace and i got jealous when i looked at his girls page so im about to delete her. I hate this... It's so unfair.
How do i get over a crush? This has been going on since the beginning of the school year.
Meeting new guys doesnt help and its all i can think about.
Yes he knows how i feel and even flirted with me.. He even insinuated(sp) that he would mess around with me even though he has a girl.

Answer 1

Getting over a crush is one of the hardest things you will ever do. ;)

But it's possible.

One. Decide if this guy is really all that or if you've just fantasized so much about thing that he seems perfect to you. For example, just from your story, I can detect one negative thing about him - he would fool around with other girls even if he has a girlfriend. Not so nice for his girlfriend.

Two. Try not to daydream about him. If you find yourself starting to daydream or think about him, force your thoughts onto another subject. This is hard but it works. If you're not thinking about a person, you won't like them like crazy.

Three. Try to stop contact with him, at least until you're completely over him. Deleting him off your MySpace was good.

Four. Don't make efforts to make yourself think about him. For example, don't purposely look at his MySpace. If you know he's going to be at a certain place at a certain time, resist being there too.

Five. Realize you don't need a guy that doesn't like you back. You deserve a guy who is crazy about you and you alone. Is this the guy? Doesn't seem like it.

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

if it is just a crush - why not enjoy it for what it is? I mean why make such a big deal out of it? we all have little crushes on people we will never be with or sometimes never meet...
the problem I see here is that you have to many expectations of someone who does not feel the same about you...why are you jealous of this other girl and more importantly why are you going to her site? this is more stalking than crushing...

just enjoy a some fantasies about your crush and know that it is nothing more...and know that we don't always get what we want and that is good...

Answer 3

I would just suggest find out how u d like to be treated ? To be .1.messed around or .2.loved?
If 1 then this is d guy , hes been honest enough n let u know dat no dude?
n if its .2.then stop blamin/hatin/judgin the guy (or urself through him n his behaviour) n chuck him out of ur life once n for all.cus even hatin him would keep him in ya know
Treat URSELF with a lot of love first n know dat u deserve hell lot of dat ....N i m sure when u have an air of ample self esteem round u , u ll get someone to actually fall in love very smoothly .BLOOM n let that guy know not choosin u was a mistake ;)

Answer 4

Look at it,like this. How can you love someone, that doesn't want you? Answer? You don't! You go get you a Big Stock of Self-Respect. and get on with seeing yourself as a Very beautiful Woman. The Bears are gonna Lose. Sorry too have to bring you the bad news.

Answer 5

Calm down, your over reacting. I've had to get over a lot of crushes. If this guy you like is such a bad person (like about that whole messing around thing), then forget about him, there are a lot of other guys out there. If you used to like him and now realise that he's not what you thought he was, it's okay, just forget about him. I've liked girls that I thought were awesome until I realized they were jerks. It's gonna be okay, you just have to relax and get your priorities in order; is his flaws to much for you to still want to go out with him? I don't know him, but he sounds like a jerk. Good luck with your dilemma, and remember to keep your cool.

Answer 6

i imagine so! i'm 32 and that i at present have a "weigh down" on a guy.. although i'm attempting my toughest now to not because it isn't appropriate for on the prompt.. To me a weigh down is once you want a guy and want to understand more suitable about him, be round him and so on.. get butterflies once you recognize you're going to work out him and so on.. although as an human being you should actually purely make a flow and get it over with the position-as once you're youthful you gained't make a flow and purely keep on "crushing"... i'm able to't make a flow in my situation so for this reason it is going to stay a "weigh down" and purely that.. :-) wish this helps!

Answer 7

He is a dog if he has a women. Why would you want to be with a guy like that? Just because you sort of like someone doesnt mean you have to doing something about it. Just let it lay

Answer 8

If I were you I would take a risk and find another guy. Believe me it works. I went through the same thing.

Answer 9

Getting over my crush was one of the hardest thing i ever had to do, because he knew that he had my mind blow, so he played games with my heart. So you just need to move on to something better.

Answer 10

If the relationship makes your stomach nauseous and you're so confused--give it up! Just focus on school and your friends and just tell yourself that he wasn't really interested in you in the first place so why bother?