How many of you call your child a bad boy or girl when they do something wrong? Why? I always tell my kids that you are a good girl/boy but you made a bad choice. Don't you think if you tell your kids they are bad they will start to believe this. Kids are not bad they are just kids and make wrong choices. Agree? disagree?
2007-01-24 07:45:20 · 5 answers · asked by Sassy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I make it a point NOT to call him bad. My MIL was a teacher and has seen 1st hand how it effected the children in her class (1 & 2nd grades). Several children DID feel they were bad and not worthy.
ALSO my friend is a stay at home mom. She spends all day with her son (2 1/2) They had a great day, played, visted the park, visted a friend. But at one point he was acting up and she told him he was being Bad..SO later when his father was giving him a bath..all he could tell him about his day was "I was bad".
I always tell my son, when he has done a good job or when I am proud of him. But if he is being bad. I tell him he can't act like that and try to explain why.
2007-01-24 08:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by whatelsewhatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still pregnant with my first but I dont like the idea of calling kids bad or good boy (or girl) It sound too much like I am talking to a dog. It's not so much that kids make wrong choices, they just need someone to guide them to make the right choices and someone to show them the right way to do things when they do it wrong. I belive in letting children figure out if they fall they get hurt, that way they learn to be careful. But a hint would help for next time. Example: Be sure to watch where you are walking. I believe that kids listen to what adults say and take it to heart, so I am always as nice to them as I can be depending on the situation!
2007-01-24 15:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's important to separate the behavior from the child. Parents should NOT tell the child that they're a bad boy or girl, but that their behavior is bad. That way they get a sense of what is right and what is wrong, and not that they are a bad person.
2007-01-24 15:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a very interesting article on this topic you might want to check out.
Good Kids, Bad Kids:
We try to scold and praise our children the "correct" way. But sometimes the wrong way might be better.
By Julia GlassParenting, April 2001
If anyone would like to read it, contact me and I will email it to you.
2007-01-24 16:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a habit that is taken down from generations. I think it is time to start to make that change. but you have to be careful that u r kids do not turn on you. in otherwords, when you are soft on u r kids, kids start to rule parents and usually end up not knowing what to do. So you getta know how to sail the boat!
2007-01-24 15:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by NY has spoken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋