I'm a Christian, she's an Atheist, what happens now?

Question

I'm involved with a wonderful girl with a great personality and we're starting to get serious. The question says it all.

There's no chance of either of us converting to the other's beliefs.

Let me also point out, I was NOT a Christian when we first started dating.

Answer 1

I'm not going to write you a book explaining why you should do whatever, you're free to choose, and no one on this earth can hold your decision against you.

I'm sure you already know the answer, but if you're like every other human, the choice can be hard to accept.

Remember, individuals have different solutions to problems.

Do what YOU know is right, you can never be wrong.

Answer 2

Now that you are a Christian, stay that way. Don't ever say never about converting. there is always hope, when God is in a situation. Since you are a new Christian (I assume), you are going to be experiencing difficulties. It would be easy to give in to "her ways" and not live a Christian lifestyle. Satan's way is always easier BUT harder in the long run and more painful as well. Satan will paint you a beautiful picture of how a non-christian life can be so beautiful and so full of life and so much more, BUT....what he doesnt' show you is how full hell is of his followers. Your girlfriend cannot see this either as she is blinded by satan and follows him, since you stated she is an Atheist. She apparantly has never had any reason to believe in God. God can open doors in that area and maybe she can see things that God is real, that God does exist. Its hard to reason with a non believer BUT even harder to reason with an Atheist.
I don't think you would be so much in the wrong for being her friend. Look at who all Jesus was friends to when he was here on Earth. The only chance we have of converting or "winning" over the lost is to be there and be friends with them and share Gods love with them. Some of the best people in the world are good moral people. Lets hope she is at least a good moral lady with good moral values and you hold to your Christian moral values and invite God into your relationship. Ask God to open her heart to your Christianity and at least see what you feel and experience and understand why you believe a Christian way. Good luck.

Answer 3

I will tell you this from experience, she will have a harder time accepting your beliefs that you will hers. I was in the same boat with my ex-wife. Notice the ex part. At some point, she is going to either demand you change your beliefs, or end the relationship. Could be next month, could be 5 years. But, it will happen.

She will get mad at you for expressing your beliefs around her chrsitian friends. I didn't know this, but since I was never at church, she told them I was working. Then, the people come over and ask when I will be off so I can make it to church with her. I told them I was not a christian, and they were floored. Not my fault she lied to them.

I will not say this relationship is doomed, but I will stand by my statement of her having more of a problem than you will accepting this, or agreeing to disagree.

*ADDED*

Actually, reverse all that. I thought you were the atheist, and she was the christian. You will be the one who has a harder side accepting it.

Answer 4

is that a problem??? I am an atheist and my gf is christian and she has been with me for four years. we're happy together and we've only spoken once about religion and our beliefs and we respect each other and i don't mock her nor she me and we never try to convert each other.
it is pretty stupid if you think this will be a problem if you want to get closer to her. think it through and know that her beliefs are a part of what makes her and know that you found this girl appealing and attractive for those beliefs and what not.
Don't over think it, you can't change someone's beliefs and you don't have to in a relationship. a major part of a relationship is compromise and you will have to be satisfied with what she believes in and she will have to be satisfied with what you believe in and conrtinue being happy.

Answer 5

Well, I'm a christian as well. The best option that I can think of is, you believe what you want to believe and she'll believe what she wants to believe (or not believe). If you both truly love each other, you'll accept each other's religious beliefs. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I was married to 3 different persons with 3 different religions. You need to figure her out. sometimes is good but sometime could be a big problem specially if you are going to have kids.

Do you have many thing in common? What are they and write them down.

You need to do a pre-arranged acceptance of each other in front of couple of people that you both trust (or 4 people 2 from each side). Or do a a contract in writing. (for a non-religious people it is contracts that count).

Later I tell you people change. a simple accident can open her eyes and become Christian after all. so, do the above and believe in Jesus. We do not judge people in Jesus name... Amen

Answer 7

If you love her, and she loves you... then it doesn't matter. Respect each other's beliefs... and let it be. Sure, you'll have discussions, and different opinions, but you should be able to learn more from each other through that process. The only thing that matters is love, and anything else is just second rate without it.

Answer 8

So respect each other's decisions and don't plan on having any kids.

I'm an atheist, and I've never been able to make it very long with a Christian. The whole, "You're going to Hell," thing tends to get in the way. But...if you can respect her and her beliefs, then it shouldn't be problematic. It will become a huge problem if you end up with kids though.

Answer 9

it shouldn't matter. there should be no converting if there's no will. the fact your in a relationship with her says you respect her. to respect her is to let her chose her own beliefs. i'm christian as well...and my girl is muslim. we talk about our different beliefs all the time....respectfully though. i know different beliefs can conflict with eachother. but that's life. don't pressure her into your beliefs and don't allow her to do it to you. its possible for you guys to live in harmony while one going to church on sunday while the other doesn't...

Answer 10

I'm a Christian too and was in a relationship wtih a non Christian for a while, it just leads to problems so i say find a girl that shares your beliefs