i met a guy in october and got pregnant in november, we're excited about the kid but he recently told me that his heart is still with a girl he broke up with in july. he said he likes me a lot, loves we're having a baby, but he gave his heart away. okay i'm 20, he's 24, the other girl is 19. apparently the girl got pregnant and possibly by a different guy, lost it, broke up with him and then moved several states away. Now all of a sudden she wants him back. a part of me wants to try and keep him around. i thought we ended it but since we work together he didn't like me not looking at him and said to me: "i thought i could hurt you and not care, but for some reason hurting you affected me." and then we had good make up sex and haven't talked about where his heart is since... do i just leave it... do i bring it up again? i don't even know how to react. how likely is he going to get back with this girl... oh and i just realized he proposed to her and she said no so... what are my chances
2007-01-24 07:36:27 · 17 answers · asked by mscac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-24 07:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would sit him down and have a serious talk with him as to where his mind is and what he plans for the future. It is quite soon for marriage seeing that you only have been with him for a a few months, but now there is a baby involved. So both of you need to think about the baby's future....
Let him know that you want to know where you stand. It is only fair. If he feels he can't be with you, at least you will know out front and maybe both of you can remain friends, for the baby's sake, instead of continuing the relationship and he hurts you at the end and then you will be enemies..... (If he is a real man, he will tell you exactly where you stand and what he plans to do)
God Luck and God Bless!
2007-01-24 15:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should openly ask for his opinion about this other girl. If he still loves her then you need to do the right thing and let him go but make sure he knows that you still love him and so will your child and tell him that he's welcome back but make sure he knows that he isn't going to be jumping back and forth between you two women. And, it sounds like the other woman got over him, he has issues with letting go. You need to let him know that he has a life. He has you, and the child in your stomach. You need to make sure he knows his options and the risks for all of his options. You still have a huge chance of him staying with you- it sounds like he just needs some alone time to think all this through. Good Luck!
2007-01-24 15:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling a lot of people's responses are going to be "don't be stupid and leave the guy" and they are right. It would be quite dumb to chase after a guy who obviously has his heart somewhere else and has admitted it to you. He doesn't want to be with you (just out of pity) and you have absolutely no chances of being with him and being happy. Try and forget about him because otherwise you are walking into a disastorous relationship. good luck.
2007-01-24 15:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but personally, I cannot believe you are counting your "chances" with a guy that proposed to someone else, admitted to you that he wants her, and just because she denied him, you are excited about having a chance with him? I know you have a baby, but please.....what about the next time another woman catches his fancy? Is he going to ditch you again? Think about it.
2007-01-24 15:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be realistic, this guy does not love you or want to be with you!!!
Move on and next time try to NOT get pregnant the first month of meeting someone!
2007-01-24 15:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't want him because he's your future baby's daddy. that'll end up in a divorce if it even gets as far as a marriage. want him because you love you. if you don't love him, just stay friends and get along. work together for the wellbeing of your baby. you gotta think of the baby before yourselves now...its part of getting pregnant...but just don't want him solely because he's gonna be the baby's daddy. i say chances are 20% in your favor. thats not a healthy percentage to rely on...
2007-01-24 15:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by zeek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby i think you need to grow up and stop with the puppy love days. you a mother now. i would sit him down and just say look, i need clarification are you with me and the baby or are you not sure. i wouldn't allow him to play with my heart. having a child is hard. you're still young. you deserve to have your needs and expectations met as long as they're aren't far fetched. i wouldn't allow him to play me. unless you don't care then i say you like it i love it. to me your chances are only what you make them! good luck
2007-01-24 15:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by QueenMother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny Im so sorry but dont force anything if it isnt going to work it wont work but dont beat yourself up over a guy who is in love with another girl....Have your child(God Bless) and live your life if he wants to be around let him if he doesnt dont force it
2007-01-24 15:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good attorney and let him know that for the next 18 years he will be paying child support
2007-01-24 15:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could go into a long speach about this sweetheart but i wont waste ure time like he did. Move on. He is a common cheater and will ruin ure life. Time to find you a man....... a REAL man.
2007-01-24 15:41:49 · answer #11 · answered by tomy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋