our daughters other mother will not help with potty training,help!!!?

Question

We have our 3 yr.old daughter during the week,and her other mom has her on the week ends.During the week we make great progress with her, even to the point she was peeing and pooing on the potty by herself. She goes with the other mom and our daughter will not even step into the bathroom when she comes home! Every week we have to start over and seem to be getting nowhere.Our daughter is 3 years old, and she understands the whole bathroom consept we have tried every thing from treats and surprises even taking away toys.We know you are not supose to punish them but that seems like the only thing we have left.The other mother lies of corse when we ask her and says that "she is potty trained when shes with me",but she always has diaper rash when she comes home,so I know she is not even tring to help potty train her.We have been going through this for over a year now.Please help with any tips!!!!!

Answer 1

I'm really sorry for all your issues, with retraining and things. that has got to be very stressful! Well I would tell the "other mother" that you are going to keep your child for approximately a month. she can still visit with the child in your home (if feasible) both saturday and sunday, so she's not missing that much time. explain to her that you feel potty training is important to your child and everyone involved. and that you feel it would be best FULLY accomplished with a stretch of time when your daughter can remain in on home. once your daughter is completely potty trained she would allow herself not to be at the "other mothers" house.

I had to do this with my daughter who i share bi/weekly custody with her father. he agreed after he realized she was making accomplishments with me but not with him. all the best to you!

Answer 2

This is really hard. You both have to work together on this. If she is not working on it all you can do is your best to keep training your daughter and then retrain her after she gets home from her other mothers house. Eventually she will catch on. Don't punish her, it is hard having your parents at different homes and different ways of doing things. Just keep rewarding her when she has a good day. Also just because she has a rash doesn't mean it is from a diaper. Some times kids don't wipe good when potty training and they get rashes...just a thought. Good luck i know it is hard i went though the same thing with my ex husband and potty training our boys.