1 Year Anniversary, Seems most girls loose their sex drive after a year....WHY?

Question

I am athletic,attractive,successful, and can talk about emotions. I ask why, I ask her if there is anything bothering her emotionally, and the answer is no. However, my girlfriend doesn't orgasm, if I didn't orgasm, I'm pretty sure I would get tired of having sex after a year too!! Is that why? I have suggested self-exploration, that she use a helper, but she has no interest in using toys on herself or incorporating them into the relationship. Why is this so common? I have read that 55% of women are inorgasmic, I have dated some very excited women in the past for shorter periods of time, I think it is my luck that my long relationships end up being with inorgasmic women, what do you think? PS.. good oral techniques have not helped.

[Ages, me:30, her: 37

Answer 1

Go to a sex shop together, watch porn....or just practice....if the girl isnt willing...she is never going to try new thing with u!!! Good Luck!

Answer 2

Yes, it is true that some women are inorgasmic. This is a bit personal, but think about how often you climb in the saddle and ask your self "Am I driving for too long in the same gear?" if you get my meaning. There is a little saying from where I used to live: 'Poke the fire too often and it will go out.' Didn't really think about it till now.
What I am trying to say is try not having sex for a little while and then try again.

Answer 3

Well you are only 16 and its only been a year...Maybe not this year maybe after 5 years do the penny thing because really that is saying you want to be together forever and who knows what could happen years later? Maybe you'll break up and the pennys will mean nothing I think writing a poem would be nice! Happy anniversary! :) Peace

Answer 4

some women can not have orgasms no matter how hard u or they try. technically there is only 1% that can't
If after a year ur women aren't having orgasms it could be just that fact that they are bored. like men women get bored with the same old routine. try something exciting, out of routine for the both of u,make sure she is not stressed about something, be it work or her family. take a trip to somewhere neither one of u have ever gone (a b & b out in the country) and surprise her with something only u could think about. if she doesnt seem to thrilled and still wont orgasm then she might be part of that one percent. if nothing else works try talking to her to find out if there is some problem that she hasnt talked to anyone about. once problem is fixed u might just get some action that satisfies the both of u.
good luck.

Answer 5

You're putting a lot of pressure on her, and you come off as though it is something that you want her to have, either because it makes you feel better about your role in the relationship of because you need some type of affirmation that you're pleasing her. At the end of the day though it's something she has to take responsibility for, assuming that it's something she wants or desires to take place. A lot of this is coming across as your own insecurities to keep the women satisfied to begin with. Of course in the beginning everything is new and it happens often, but over time when she gets comfortable with you she doesn't want or need it as much. After a year your relationship should have matured into something that is a lot deeper than something physical anyway, and neither want of you should want or need it as much; it's no real indication of what the relationship is about at all.

It's very difficult to keep up that same momentum after a year, which is why your long term relationships are with these types of women. Good techniques are only going to go so far, she really has to be into it and connected and in sync with you emotionally for those techniques to work. It's quite different for men, who pretty much do that every time they go after it, than for women, who may never have experienced that, or perhaps it is rare when they do ...

Answer 6

I hope it is not true that "most women lose their sex drive after a year", though certainly some do. If your gf was orgasmic earlier in your relationship but no longer is, then probably you just need a lot more romance in the relationship - flowers, lighting, music, appreciative love notes, an occasional very special hotel, etc. There is a lot more than the physical aspect to sex, especially for women. (I'm assuming your foreplay is varied and reasonably extensive.)

If the lady never was orgasmic, then she needs to see a doc, who may send her/you to see a specialist.

Answer 7

OK...first of all, I think you need to know that every woman has or does fake an orgasm at some point in her life. She is probably self concious and is embarrassed. Try surprising her with something small like a massage that is sensual and then use strawberries and champagne to seduce her further. She needs to feel like to most beautiful and sexy woman in the world. Most women can't relax during sex. BTW- good oral sex is all relative to the person who is giving it, but I guarantee that there is a way to do it that would get her 'there'...but, she probably doesn't like to communicate about that either. It's all psychological....she needs to let go and most women are soooo concerned about everything else that is going on...they forget about themselves. Talking about it is probably stressing her out and of course she doesn't want to have sex. So...try subtle things...go slowly and don't pressure. If you love her...try this and she will be grateful.

Answer 8

I think it is because you lose the sense of newness. keep it spontaneous and new, exciting. After some time i think we just get comfortable and slowly loose the spark. Try flowers, champaigne and chocolate covered strawberries for no reason , sometimes we get used to this only on birthdays or anniversaries the best time is just because it's Tues. and i missed you. and it doesn't hurt to add a chickflick to the mix and maybe some takeout and something comfortable and sexy to lounge in while you watch the movie and food and most of all each other.

Answer 9

Premature ejaculation was really affecting my life and my relationship with my partner. I went to the doctor who helped me with some drugs. The outcome wasn't completely satisfatory so I decided to test this natural method http://cureprematurejaculat.toptips.org

I recommend it cause It really helped me a lot. I was able to solve my embarassing problem!

Answer 10

Maybe its not your looks, bank account, and emotional open-ness. I can't speak for her, but my experiences are relatively similar (not the inablity to orgasm though). No sex drive can be because of general boredom in the relationship. Things get too ordinary and predictable and too comfortable. Watching TV every night, spaghetti and blockbuster every friday, the same restaurants, the same dates, when there is no fun out of the bedroom, you don't want to bring it into the bedroom. Do something unexpected and fun. Surprise her. Do something new. Do something she likes, without asking her. Fawn over her (my bf of 10 months told me he was proud of me last night--for absolutely no reason at all--and it made me want to jump his bones.) Do little things for her and mention little things. It might take a few days (weeks if it's slow going) but it should help.

Answer 11

Its funny you say that you "can talk about emotions"...do you exhibit them?

Personally, I find it hilarious that so many of you men think something is wrong with US as opposed to YOU.

What have you brought to the bedroom (besides your attractiveness, athleticism, and success) lately? I mean, how long is that supposed to turn us on?

We want you guys to be creative and innovative too, ya know.

It seems that guys always think that we should morph in to this sex vixen by subconciously reading your brainwaves.

When you want it hot and sexy...bring her in to the bedroom...blindfold her...tell her its all about her (and how you're willing to take your time) and entice all of her senses.

If she doesn't like toys, use food...ice cubes or freeze some fruit like peaches and bananas and work those bad boys....chocolate....feathers....lickable powders...edible underwear....ANYTHING!!!

Good Luck!!