what communication problems may i face when dealing with a person suffering abuse?

Answer 1

Abuse, in general, has a way of twisting the way a person thinks, acts and percieves the world around them. Do not be surprised if the person seems shallow, inatentive, or withdrawn. The way an abused person perceives a situation may also differ. Where they place blame or thier response may not seem logical.

People who have been abused tend to have trouble with trusting others. Do not be surprised if they offer little information about themselves, and do not push to much for it. They also tend to have a low self esteem and will neither recognize or accept praise for thier achievements. But praise as often as possible and point out what they have done that is exceptional.

There will probably be communication problems, but that can be with anyone. I think that the best thing you can do when communicating with anyone is remain consistant to your word, follow through on your actions and treat everyone respectfully.

Answer 2

If you are a friend and your friend comes from a family with a history of sexual, emotional, or physical abuse, you might very well encounter major communication problems in your friendship. These problems may not occur right away but may, in fact, show up later and may even be a factor in when and how the friendship ends. Just remember this when it happens: "It's all in the family."

Some issues you might encounter:

1. Unusual responses to everyday stresses.
2. Major life changes (divorce, death in the family, marriage of the abuser in the family, etc.) spills over into your friendship with this person.
3. Odd beliefs about sexuality or even about friendships.
4. A formerly happy, caring person becomes hateful and at the very least, verbally abusive towards you.
5. The abused friend will misinterpret what you say, either in person, in e-mail, or by phone -- as if you are "attacking" them when you had no intention of doing so.
6. One of the first things I noticed (long before I became fully aware of what was going on) was normal phone conversations often included a nasty, uncalled for remark towards me and I asked myself, "Why am putting myself through this?"
7. This is an important one: Sooner or later, you will become painfully aware that the person has a strong,unusual communication bond (co-dependency) with a person in their family of origin. Oftentimes this is the person who was not the actual abuser but who might be termed, "the enabler" (the person who directly or indirectly allowed the abuse to go on). And here is why you should be aware of this problem, especially: You may assume that confidences between the two of you will be kept just between the two of you -- they will not be. The abused friend will, eventually, tell even your deepest, darkest secrets to his or her true confident (often the "enabler" mother).
8. You become aware of the web of secrecy and lies the friend has created to make it seem his or her family is normal.
9. You become aware that the friend is still emotionally tied to the abuser family of origin even though he or she lives at a separate residence and that that family is still having an influence on how your friend behaves, even with his or her dealings with you.
10. You realize that you have been had and depending on how strong your feelings are toward this friend, you may very well end the friendship.

It's probably a great irony that the people (friends) who could help an abused person in coping with their abuse often become victims of that family's abuse.

Answer 3

A lot of times people that have been abused will be in denial, or anger towards others that aren't the abusers. There may be extreme ranges of emotions from tears to anger that causes them to throw things in order to relieve some of the stress. They might not want to talk to you at all because of trust issues.

For me personally, a lot of the time I don't like to talk to people about the actual abuse at all because I don't think that people will believe me or that they will only believe parts of it, because some of it was so bad that it seems unbelievable even to me, and I lived through it. Trust is a big issue with me. Anger is also a problem I have, and I can't seem to work through that no matter how many doctors or classes I take or medications I try, there doesn't really seem to be anything to help with the anger except to just let me work it out of my system at the time. Then I'll be ok for the most part for an extended period of time. I don't much cry anymore, but trust is most definitely is my number one issue, and figureing out who to trust to talk to about it all.

Answer 4

the subsequent time you get a suicide e mail, respond then do it and supply us all ruin. labored for my ex husband while he went on his 5th pity party. in no way went down that highway back. each and every so often you won't be able to be staggering. only verify this guy or woman does not understand the place you reside. you are able to record the emails as threats to the police.

Answer 5

denial, anger, tears, lying,fear, refuse to talk. You name it if it is dysfuncional.