My little brother Gado is 14,15 in march and he kinda...talks to his posters not conversations just sorta recounts his day...I know.He is alone most of the time because I have a new baby who HAS to be my first priority and my mother is a ***** who pays more attention to her boyfriend then him.He has alot of friends and gets good grades,he watches cartoons and plays video games-everything else is normal.He only started acting like this after her boyfriend moved in and this guy smokes weed and drinks,luckilly Gado has a stance against that kinda stuff but I wanna know if he needs help and if theres anything I can do to help him.
2007-01-24 06:47:33 · 19 answers · asked by craigalert 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont think there is much wrong here other than he is just using the posters as a kinda sounding board.... if what you say is true, he is feeling left out of the family situation and is finding other ways to make his OWN family, the kind he wishes for.... You need to try and make a little more time for him, as best you can, by maybe involving him with the baby..... Let him turn that love from the posters to the baby..... Ask him if he would like more responsibilities with and for the baby... like bath time ?? feeding ?? Your little brother is reaching out for attention and love and time...... give it to him..... if mom is as you say she is, YOU need little brother as much as he needs you..... form a bond with him and let him form one with you and baby.... FAMILY means a lot to him and you and baby are his family !!!!! Let him in !!!!
God bless
2007-01-24 06:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You lil bro. doesn't need mental help, but he needs a strong male figure to keep in shape. Even though your priority is your baby (as it should be), let your brother know that you are there for him. Your mother's bf is no role model for him and your lilttle brother realizes that, specially with a strong stance against drugs and alcohol. Just tell him that you are there for him, he's at a stage where life's tough and confusing, and he's developing into the man he will become the rest of his life. Recounting the day to his posters is a sign that he's not comfortable enough to do it with somebody else, or he'd rather see something instead of a mirror.
2007-01-24 14:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Frank the tank 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although your a new mother you have to include him in your day, surely an hour wouldn't mess up your day. There is always time to talk to someone especially if he's your brother and you see him talking to a poster. All it takes is to ask him how his day was and tell him about yours. Ask him if he would help you with the baby and keep chatting. Whether he helps or not isn't the issue all you want him to do is talk and let him know that your there for him even if his mother isn't. Keep talking about anything while he's helping and get him to open up to you, don't give the excuse that the baby takes up all your time, I'm sure he's heard that one from his own mother and her boyfriend enough .
2007-01-24 15:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you heard him talking why didnt you go in and say hey bruv you ok there want to talk about anything!!!
As for your mum you should give her a peice of your mind what kind of mother puts an alcoholic dope head before her kids.. Get child welfare involved say your concerned for your bothers well being and his psychological welfare also..
I dont think he has mental problems as your mum doesnt communicate with him he is just talking aloud it would be ideal if someone took the time to listen to him.. Phone him everyday after school ask how he is and how his day was with a new baby I understand you cant be with him all the time but at least you care enough to realise that somethings wrong..
Have him at your house a couple of times a week for dinner and let him spend time with the baby he is the baby,s uncle and should be getting to know him/her.. Let him know your there for him any time he needs you.. Talk this over with your partner tell her your concerns she will want to help he sounds a good kid ..
Make your thoughts known to your mother that you both dont approve of her boyfriend make her realise how your brother is feeling if she is any kind of mother at all she will take notice..
Just be there for him and let him know you are..
2007-01-24 15:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the boyfriend smokes in the house your brother lives in he could be getting a high off the smell. He may be thinking the posters are talking back to him.
I would get the kid out of that house as soon as possible or call the police on both mother and boyfriend. Your mother is endangering the health of her son [ which is called Child Abuse ]
The longer you hold off the worst the brother will get.
2007-01-24 14:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like the only one at his home with sense. I don't feel like he needs mental help intervention, but just support. I think he is stuck between a rock and a hard space in that he obviously doesn't like the drugs around him, but if he says anything to anyone in authority, well you know that opens up a big can of worms and his mom is involved. You are very kind to think of him with all that is going on in your life, so I have a feeling you are helping him somehow without realizing it. Just let him know you are there for him and stick with that offer no matter what. Cause if you back down for any reason, even a good one, he'll never come back for help. Good Luck
2007-01-24 14:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Christop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just needs a little attention. Pehaps you could talk to him and make arrangements for the two of you do something together once in awhile. I know it's hard with a baby, but maybe you can go the park or something. I wouldn't get him medical help quite yet.
2007-01-24 14:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is on the poster? For example, if it is a poster of his idol (like Justin Timberlake) then maybe he is just wishing Justin were real and could recount his day with him.
Or, if it is a poster of a girl, maybe he wishes he had her as a girlfriend to come home to and recount his day with her.
I don't see anything wrong here. He might just need someone to talk to.
2007-01-24 14:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by freakazoid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What an awful situation for all of you. I wouldn't say that this is abnormal, maybe just his way of talking out his day and/or problems. It is a terrible situation when a prarent puts their child on the back burner for a new relationship and what makes it worse is that the new b/f lives with him. Just keep an eye out and if you have the opportunity, allow your brother to move in with you.
2007-01-24 14:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having someone else for him to talk to is not a bad thing and cant hurt. besides sounds like he is tellin the only one interested in listening. by the way call the cops and turn in the boyfriend pot is illegal maybe this could help your mother realize who is important.
2007-01-24 15:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋