Pretty much everyday for a month I've been getting crap from her.. Every little thing I get into trouble with her.. She's stay home mom, who is about to get a job soon, I've been trying to keep her happy but it seems like everything I do is just not enough.. I"m really trying my hardest but it's like i'm doing this for nothing.. Why can't she appreciate anything I do for her.. At first I just thought it was pms but it's been going on for a month and I know you don't have it that long.. Any opinions on what is going on with her or what i should do?
2007-01-24 06:47:09 · 12 answers · asked by crazgrss 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She snaps at you because she may be unhappy with herself, she may be nervous, she may want more from you...she needs to get away for a weekend....give her some cash, you take the kids and let her go; right before her big day at this new job. Women go through these things all of the time...trust you are not alone....but you 'HAVE TO BE STRONG' not only for her but for yourself also. Sit her down one-day soon and say" Babe...you know I love you and I would pull the damn moon from the sky for ya....but I can't do anything to help you or give you what you want if we can't communicate with each other....you yell so I yell and when the yelling stops we still have gotten no where....key word here is COMMUNICATE your feelings to your woman...don't let her push you around because she is unhappy with her life right know...but don't push your weight around either...try somewhere in the middle...be her superman and her girlfriend! Promise it will help at least till the next problem.....stay focused on the big picture....YOUR LOVE!
2007-01-24 07:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by KAOTICS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be anxiety for her new job or by you trying so hard to make her happy it's doing nothing but irritating her cause you ARE doing everything wrong, it' really hard to please a woman when her mind is made up about something even if she tells you step by step you will still end up not doing it right so I suggest you give her some much needed space to think and breathe if she cares and still wants you she will come around.
2007-01-24 14:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, this is confusing. but the only way you are really gonna figure out what is going on is to talk to her. just sit her down and ask her what is going on. there may be problems around the house that you don't know about or maybe she isn't thrilled with getting a job, perhaps she enjoys being a stay at home mom. just sit her down and talk to her.
2007-01-24 14:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by ~karma~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her what her problem is? I'm being very serious. The possible reasons why she's acting like this are endless. She's the only one who can tell you what her problem is. Sit her down, voice your concerns, and ask her what her what the deal is.
If she doesn't want to tell you, stop going out of your way to make her happy. I mean, you don't have to cold flip and turn in an asshole. Just don't bust your *** trying to make her happy.
2007-01-24 14:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one: ASK her what her problem is!
If she won't tell you, then give her the space she so obviously is hinting that she needs until she can come clean with her issues.
And stop whining about how you're not being appreciated. If you're doing that much for her dude, then SHE'S the one missing out if you step back. Man up and take charge dude!
2007-01-24 15:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress...depression...my bet is that it's stress from the upcoming change in life. How long ago did she have the baby? it could be hormonal imbalance with that. Talk to her about it. Also...it may mean that she doesn't want to be with you anymore and is trying to push you away (although my bet is on the first two). Good luck!
2007-01-24 14:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat her down and talked to her about the way you are feeling? If not, thats the first thing you should do. One thing to remember, if the communication between you guys breaks down, your relationship will surely go down hill. I dont want to speculate on anything else, neither should you. Just talk to her first......good luck!
2007-01-24 14:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she want to go back to work or is she being forced to? I had to go back to work for financial reasons and I know I treated my husband pretty poorly for awhile because I was very bitter about going back to work (we have one child). If that's not it, examine other things that have been going on in your lives...she sounds like she is unhappy and isn't wanting to tell you what it is....Sorry if that isn't the most helpful advice!
2007-01-24 14:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be just about anything....she could be feeling unappreciated herself for the work she does at home. Maybe she doesn't feel good about herself. Maybe she feels isolated when you are gone.
I think you should be having this discussion with her really....
2007-01-24 14:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lili's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a perfectly normal woman to me.
2007-01-24 14:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋