2007-01-24 06:46:08 · 35 answers · asked by AJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Are you not close with her b/c you just haven't really gotten a chance to get to know her. Or did something go down where you no longer talk to her b/c of an incident? If you just haven't gotten the chance to know her, I would def. ask her to be in the wedding - perhaps this will give you a chance to bond with her!
2007-01-24 06:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by NikNak 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's completey up to you!! It is your wedding!!
I was just married in October and have two sisters and well as now two sister-in-laws. I didn't ask either of my husbands sisters to be in the wedding because we really aren't that close! Plus I didn't have any friends stand up with me either, just my sisters! I am still fine with the decision I made, but we have already started to get closer through planning the wedding and since. So if we weren't married today, I may have asked them.
But in all honesty, it is completely up to you!! I don't think she would be offended at all!!
Good luck!! And congrats!!
2007-01-24 06:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What does your fiance want? If she is single and his family is expecting her to participate (I can hear the drone of she is HIS ONLY sister....lol).... then what would it hurt? She pays for the dress and can help you make decorations and get ready....for me it was 4 sister in laws.... which could have made it a circus... make a list of your five most important details of your wedding. If the groom is not on the list....run. After that, pick your fights. Weddings last a day. In-laws, pictures and grudges last a lifetime.... God Bless
2007-01-24 07:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your future hubby. Is he close with her? Do you have a brother that's going to be a groomsman? How big is your wedding party? Do you have just as many close friends as your husband?
Overall, it's your wedding. However, if your fiance is super close with his sister, he would like to see her up there as his support. If they haven't spoken in years or only speak on holidays, it shouldn't be an issue.
If it becomes a situation because you have her (i.e., now there's too many people in the wedding party), then talk to your fiance. You could also make her an usher, guestbook person, or other relevant person in wedding.
2007-01-24 07:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't ask my sister-in-law to be one of my bridesmaids when I got married this past September. I picked my cousin that I've been close to since birth (we're a couple months apart in age) and my best friend (whom I've known for 15 years). He picked his 2 closest friends. We'd talked about it and I wasn't going to interfere with his "side" and he wouldn't do anything about mine. It was our own choice.
However, at the wedding, his sister felt very hurt that she'd been excluded and ended up leaving right after dinner at the reception. And in the pictures you could see that she'd been crying.
In my opinion, if he's close to her then you should include her. It'll help bring you and S-I-L closer together.
2007-01-24 07:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by ziggyzp77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation as you are. My fiance only has one sister and I knew he would want her to be part of our wedding. I'm so happy that I did I really think it has helped in making our relationship closer, she helps me out with the planning and is very excited about everything. I think you should do what you feel is right for you and him on your day and whatever that is will be the right decision.
2007-01-24 08:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Cold In Canada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you actively dislike each other, I'd definitely make the gesture. I've certainly heard of inlaws who felt snubbed when given "also-ran" duties like ushering instead of being asked to be a bridesmaid. If your fiance's close to his sister, put the shoe on the other foot and imagine it's your dear brother. Asking in-laws to fill these important roles will do a lot to smooth the waters ahead and show your support for the person you're marrying.
2007-01-24 06:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by mrrmaid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say, ask your fiance what his thoughts are.
If they are close and he would like his sister to be a part of the big day then I think you should definitely ask her. If they are not close and he doesn't feel that she needs to be asked, then it is totally your decision, and since you aren't close with her then don't ask her.
You could also explore other options for her as well...like doing a reading at the ceremony, or lighting candles in the ceremony or something of the like to have her included.
2007-01-24 07:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not YOUR wedding. And everyone that says to everything "it's your wedding, do what you want" above and beyond what is the "right" thing to do ... is selfish.
It is the wedding of YOU AND YOUR FIANCE.
Please don't forget what would please him.
If your husband is close to her, then yes. Absolutely.
Especially if it keeps a bride's maid/groomsman balance - and doesn't "knock" off someone much much closer to you.
It will go a long way to creating a tighter bond.
2007-01-24 06:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has two sisters, neither of whom I am very close to. I am not asking them to be a part of my wedding party. Only choose good friends for these roles. You could ask her to be the guestbook attendant.
2007-01-24 07:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋