it hurts baddly..its not that i dont wanna have but just i get scared of dat size..i think im not normal or what.. im 20 yrs and hes 21 how i can i get over dis problem nd ya does he have to force himself into me for d first time???
2007-01-24 06:39:55 · 19 answers · asked by yuv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, i heard this b/4 on this talkshow so i got it from an expert. He needs to insert his finger in "there" often to "loosen it up." then when you feel more comfortable, you can "upgrade." make sure he washes his hands first so that he won't infect your "va jay jay." bigger isn't always better in some women because every women's "va jay jay" size is different. but you never know maybe you and him are not ment to do it or should wait till marriage. good luck either way!!!
2007-01-24 14:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey , you are so scared and that is normal. It does hurt the first time and every girl is different. If he is a large blessed young man, and it is too painful, then have him go buy you a small vibrator kit to work into facilitating him. It will feel nice and you can use a lot of lubricant. It may take a while but you can use it on yourself and have full control over how far you can go. He will love to watch and if he needs some release then your mouth is a great way to say you love him too.
Don't worry your not different your just a little smaller and more scared then most.
Trust me with the advice it will work and he will love you for taking it to this level to please him,
Tracylyn S.
2007-01-24 06:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Natural lubrication works best in a situation such as this. And a good 5-10 minute masturbation for the lady is the surest way to get such lubrication going.
Many women are sensitive and can't tolerate direct p u s s y and c l i t o r a l contact with the man's rough hand. And if that's the case with you, then have him rub you through your panties or even through your pants.
2007-01-24 07:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time is painful, and I even bled for a day or so afterwards. I am not trying to scare you, some girls are smaller than others, and some guys are larger. The first time may need to be forced but afterwards if it causes too much pain you may need to go see a gynocologist.
2007-01-24 06:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you have thought of going to a medical person before coming on here? On the assumption that you are female you could try buying yourself some vibrators in various sizes, obviously starting with the smallest, and get your boyfriend to use them gently on you (with lubricant or Vasoline apperantly) to gradually enlarge you to a more accomdating size by enlarging the vibro. (I am writting this as female friend is dictating!) If this fails, return the doctors!
I hope this helps you some!
2007-01-24 06:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really normal for the first time. It hurt me literally the first 30 times we did it. But after a while it stopped. Just tell him to be gentle and to be patient and take it slow.
2007-01-24 06:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just use lot of lube baby and it will go in all the way, no matter how big he is. Lots & lots of lube should do the trick. Unless your man is trying to enter in your rear hole and then it coould be painfull.
2007-01-24 06:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first couple times hurt me but after that it didn't hurt anymore. So it will hurt the first couple times then it shouldnt. You're never going to know unless you do it.
2007-01-24 06:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by nicole_furney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him it won't hurt as much as you think. tell him not to force him self and to take it slow. i'm sure he'll understand if he really does love you. your first time will hurt but after a couple of times it won't hurt anymore.
2007-01-24 06:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋