I have got the chance at 10pm this evening to go and meet the girl my partner cheated on me with. Would you go? And if so,except for try n kill her what would you do or say?
2007-01-24 06:20:37 · 45 answers · asked by Mrs Moo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the reason is because i need answers from her as i obviously cant believe a word my partner says.
2007-01-24 06:26:21 · update #1
for every1 that wants to know if i went...no, but im regreting it now. I have managed to speak to her on the telephone and have some of my questions answered. Thanks to everyone for your great advice XX
2007-01-25 22:13:57 · update #2
ask her whether u can join em in threesome.
2007-01-24 06:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 9⤋
I was once in the same situation as you and i decided to go and meet the girl. At first i was very angry but then when i spoke to her more i realised that it was my boyfriend that was the c**t and not her. We told each other about the things that he always did and found out that he was seeing other girls aswel. I soon ditched the guy and me and his other woman are now the best of friends.
All i can say is approach the situation with an open mind but also be careful. Only you know what is right for you.
2007-01-24 08:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by kelly g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I don't think I would go. Even if you think you are over being hurt and sad, this might stir up those emotions again. This could cause you to fight with your partner.
If she's ugly, you will most likely have the "You cheated on me with THAT?!" fight.
If she's pretty you might have the "How could you do that to me?" fight and start feeling insecure about yourself and the relationship. Cheating is a huge deal and if you were able to mend your relationship and move on, you guys have something special. Keep looking forward and not back.
2007-01-24 06:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother.Its done,she'll lie and twist it anyway and it'll only hurt u.
She did nothing after all HE'S going out with u not her.Unless she's a pal she owes u nothing.
He's the one u should be pist with..and if u still cant trust him, which it looks like u cant DUMP HIM! NOW.
u dont need that crap in your life..meeting that girl would probably upset u and shes not worth meeting. Tell her pis off! and give the boyfriend the boot!
2007-01-24 06:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be curious enough to.
I would be as dignified as possible - or try! I would look drop dead gorgeous. I would try to get her to open up and then I would find out as much as possible about their liason, about her, her background etc - I would listen and not give myself away. I would be kind and friendly I would not offend her because information is power and if I upset her she might walk away before I knew what I wanted to know. On finding out what I needed to know, I would go away and plot my revenge.
It would be difficult to keep a cool head, but ultimately rewarding - don't act until you you'd had time to think - even though the temptation to punch her in the face would be big! Go for it!
2007-01-24 06:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by zman123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh babe, I seriously wouldn't.
Even if you are the most intellectual, interesting beautiful girl on the planet, It's bound to end in tears.
Why do you want to meet her??
I accidently bumped into a girl my boyf cheated on me with years ago, and It broke my heart all over again, because, she was AWFUL and I couldn't/Infact still can't get my head round the fact that he was prepared to throw me away for that.
If you've forgiven him, then Just let it go....
You need to erase all of it from your memory to let it work.
If you're not together, still let it go, YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!!
x
Don't meet her!
2007-01-24 06:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by Coley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean you have the chance? is she going to be at a party or something? how do you know she'll be there? did your husband tell u? I think that would b awkward...but if u never have seen her it might be intresting to c what she looks like, but it also could be bad, because is she's gorgeous it could ruin ur self asteem...but i would have to go, i would keep questioning if i didnt. I would just say hi and be kinda nice but make sure she knows you can b mean...
2007-01-24 06:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Blaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it will give you closure, go. Go with an open mind and try and remember that fighting will not solve anything. Act dignified and sometimes the other woman will lie in order to have you believe that your boyfriend cared for her more than he did.
Get as much information as you can but this is only for you to get over it. DO NOT size yourself up against her whether she is attractive or not because men have 100's of reasons why they cheat.
REMEBER ALSO THAT THE BLAME LIES WITH HIM. ITS HIS PROBLEM AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.
2007-01-24 06:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by smiler 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't waste your time taking your hurt and anger on a faceless girl, kick your guy in the bollocks - HARD. Then get rid of him, or if you choose to stay with him, be prepared to go through this bullshit again. Stay away from the girl there is absolutely no need to go meet her.
2007-01-24 06:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by Flossie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not go. If you see her then her face will haunt you. You won't be able to get her out of your head.
If she's better looking you'll feel intimidated and jealous.
If she's worse looking you'll feel insulted and wonder what she has that you don't.
I wouldn't go. It won't accomplish anything except satisfy you're curiosity and after that it's all regrets and complications.
2007-01-24 06:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! I would DEFINITELY go. But why do you have to talk to her? Does she know you or know that you're going??? Either way, I'd go, even if I have to force myself to have a conversation with her. But don't kid yourself; it's not like she's gonna be that honest about the affair either. Go talk, and then go break your partner's face. Find a new one!!! You don't need that sh!t...
2007-01-24 06:39:45 · answer #11 · answered by FunnyValentine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋