my parents are always fighting every single fr***** night. my mom had a stroke 2 years ago and she's got a slurred speech and she can walk. my dad is an alcoholic - has been an issue eversince i was a kid. my mom had a stroke last 2005 and with that, i took all the responsibilities at home. my dad has 2 jobs. we had a big house before and my youngest sister got pregnant so she had to move out. with my mom's condition, we cant afford a big house coz its expensive. i looked for an apartment and moved right away. we sold the house and we used some of the money to pay all their credit cards - they owed $15,000 CD. i really dont want them to live in an apartment so me and my bf looked for a smaller home - we found a town house (2 storey with 3 bedrooms) and we bought that house (we used the remaining money for the down payment). i took care of everything for them, i even budgeted their money for them and taught them how to spend wisely. but they never appreciated what i did for them.
2007-01-24
06:19:49
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now that im getting married, im turning it over back to my mom (the budgeting part and the responsibilities that i took from her when she had the stroke). it just seems that they can't handle their relationship very well because every night, almost every night, they always fight. i already spoke tto them in person. but nothing's happening. i also have a younger brother (13 yrs. old) and i know that he's not happy with what's going on with our family. they've been abusive to him (verbal and emotional abuse). i have spoken to my parents lots of times now, but they're not doing their part as parents to us and their part as husband and wife to each other.
how would you deal with this kind of situation? im sick and tired of helping them bcoz they dont like me - their favorite daughter is my younger sister. all the attention goes to her. its always cathy cathy cathy. no me and no lil brother.
please help - i need your advice.
thanks!
2007-01-24
06:24:05 ·
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Sounds like your parents never grew up. It isn't your responsibility to take care of your parents.....You need to let go and move on. If they fall on their faces it will be on their shoulders.....You are to honor your parents not enable them.......I am sorry. I know that this really hurts......My mom didn't have a stroke she is healthy but I lived this way for years......They are living through you.....They need to find their own lives now.
2007-01-24 06:25:00
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answered by Been There Done That 6
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pls don't leave them in that kind of condition, you still have to try your best cos you can never have another parent, all you need to do at this point, is to take the case to God in prayer only him can handle every problem, don't be give up stand ferm you will over come and every thing will be alright in short time. your mother and father will be the lovely parent you always want the to be. Go ahead with your marriage but pls don't go too far from them so that you can give then every assitant they need from you. Trust in God all shall be well.
2007-01-24 07:47:38
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answered by uki 1
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Marriages have problems sweetie, because your mom and dad are only human. It does seem like all the responsibility is on you, I do not understand what the question is. This isn't really a question. You have to live for yourself babe, don't do everything for someone else to the point where you can't live a normal life for yourself.
2007-01-24 07:11:54
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answered by April 4
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My parents always yell and fight, just this morning I was being lectured about sleeping in. I know how you feel. If you already tried to takl to the both of them, try each one sepratly. Mabye you can invite them to dinner, or something. I'n younger than your little brother, and I have no clue what your family is like. I just wanted to try to help, thats the kind of person I am... Mostly (weird boys in class)
2007-01-24 06:32:56
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answered by Anonymous
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You have done wonders for them, but they are in their own little world. They have been living this life for many years and they will not change. I would not expect any gratitude or appreciation for those efforts, but at least you always know that they will not end up destitute on the street. They can argue and drink their lives away and you can live in peace.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-24 06:25:44
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answered by tiuliucci 6
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they are greatful of what you do they just don'know how to show it.
try not helping them out fo r acouple of days or weeks then there notice the help adn thank you for it. and if you are under 18 quite helping and focas on school.
2007-01-24 06:26:31
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answered by Anonymous
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You are simply trying to pay them back for being parents, I give you credit for that.
Put them in two different rooms
2007-01-24 06:24:05
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answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6
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I don't see a question. But you can't fix them. Only they can fix them. Sounds like a depressing situation.
2007-01-24 06:24:03
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answered by trichbopper 4
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What is your question?
2007-01-24 06:23:12
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answered by Le_Roche 6
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