I have an 11 month old son and he sleeps in my room in his crib. Sometimes when he's sleep, my husband and I may get a bit romantic (you know what I mean). Sometimes when he's playing quietly in his crib, we go for it....He has his own room but refuses to sleep in there, so we put his crib in our room. Is this appropriate?
2007-01-24 06:06:04 · 23 answers · asked by Deeandra M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Psychologists have proven that children have no memories from before they were two years of age, so having sex with him in the room will hardly scar him for life. If you and your husband are comfortable with it, go ahead. The real trouble is that this child needs to learn to sleep in his own room. Seriously, the kid is eleven months old - children do what their parents tell them to do, period. He might cry and keep you up the first few nights, but eventually he will wear himself out and get used to it.
And good for you for continuing to have a good, happy marriage despite having a child! The best gift you can give your children is having a loving relationship with their father.
2007-01-24 07:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mysterious Gryphon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking then you know-the answer is no. His crib needs to be in his room. And he may not know exactly what is going on but do you really want him geting glimpses of that? As he gets bigger you may see the result of this in the way he plays with other kids (acting overly sexual) or he may start to mimic noises he hears-either way the behavior won't be appropriate and could cause enough concern for someone to report it to child protective services. The bottom line-put him in his own room if you want to have sex.
2007-01-24 08:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by VAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has his own room, make him sleep in his own room. He's too young to tell you whether or not he likes it. It will be easier on you now then when he gets to be 2. Stick to a routine and soon enough he won't be "protesting" sleeping in his own room. But, for your actual question:
I worked at a daycare where we had a 12 month old boy. His parents were talking about how he sleeps in their room because his mom didn't think he was ready to sleep all by his lonesome just yet. One day, we noticed this little boy going around to little girls and humping them. I mean...noises and all. Like he'd seen it before. The other teacher's agreed it was time for him to get his own room...
They see (and hear) more than you think. Get him his own room...then go for it.
2007-01-24 07:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 8 months old we have a room for him but his crib is in our room and I am not ready to move him out. And I REFUSE to have sex with him in the room. I'm sure your child will not remember what is going on but do you really want an audience? He has never slept in our bed and never will but still the idea of having sex infront of your child at any age turns my stomach
2007-01-24 06:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No definately not. You need to get him to start sleeping in his own room for one because you are gonnahave a hard time getting him out of your bed if you continue to let him sleep in there. Its gonna suck sharing a bed with a 5 year old and your husband..then your definately never gonna be able to have sex. But i think its kinda discusting that you would have sex with him in the room...hes gonna realize what your doing someday.
2007-01-24 06:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. We did it around our 2 year old recently (he was sleepping) i think if the baby is awake- then yes 11 months is probably innapropiate to do all the time. I would try to start putting him in his room. but hey, at least its mommy and daddy and not the mailman or something.
2007-01-24 06:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can a 11 month old baby tell you he ownt sleep in his room? hehe... my situation wa stotally different,my son didnt want the room..he wanted the living room sofa.
anyways, dont do the dirty deeds while you child is awake. at least if he is asleep its fine. he is still a baby. but if he has his own room,why not getting him adjusted to it before he is 1 or 2 yr old? start now girl! if not you twoi will never have privacy unless he is asleep.
2007-01-24 06:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by mom_princess77 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it ain't. I would put him back into his own room, maybe give him a little nightlight and just check on him about every 2 hours or when he gets quiet. He will have to adjust. You ain't going to let him sleep in your room when he is in college too are you? Be the parent and LET GO.
2007-01-24 06:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by protruckdriver71 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No! Absolutly not! Go into another room while he's sleeping. How can you even get in the mood with a precious little pair of eyes staring at you?!!
2007-01-24 07:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by marcella M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first problem is not teaching your baby that they can't sleep in your room. He HAS to learn. Don't keep his crib in your room.
As for having sex around him, I don't think it's a good idea - think of it as a form of birth control.
2007-01-24 06:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dizney 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋