its been over a month and yet i'm still heartbroken he made me fall in love with him then broke my heart by msn saying he didn't feel the same anymore. it all happened like a dream and now its over i try and keep myself busy and no matter how many people tell me he wasn't worth it, it still hurts when i see him around college acting like nothing happened we only went out for 2 months but it still kills me when i see him or hear his name, is this normal??? i just hate the fact that i see him but know i can no longer talk to him like i once did, i can't take is pain much longer will i ever get back to normal? anyone else felt like this? help!
2007-01-24 05:53:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know even thought this might sound a little cruel, I'm sure he notices that your still all bump-out about the break up but you are just adding more fuel to his ego. You are sending him the sense that you cant live without him, and should just show him that you are ok too. If you really think about it, was it that good of a fairytale that he didn't even have the courage to talk to you face to face about what he really wanted out of those two month you guys went out. I've cared about guys before and I also been heartbroken, but you know even thought it hurts you should never show him that you are still grieving about it.
2007-01-24 06:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha, this is crazy. the same exact, i mean THE SAME exact thing happened to me. The only thing thats different is shes a girl and im a boy. Yea this is normal, well i guess for me. And guess what the same thing actually really really recently happened to me. Yea, at first everything seemed right out of a perfect love story. I've never met someone quite like her, and i have met people before. But it seemed everything with her just seemed ti fall into place. But it was all my fault for the ending. I did the stupidest actions and said the stupidest things. I kinda freaked her out. And so i looked back at the things i said, and i can't believe what i was saying, it was almost like it wasn't me. I guess when you like something to an extent you'd do/say anything to keep it. Unfortunately, this was factor that caused the ending. That was my first heartbreak. Since then I felt like i needed to help guys understand women better, because most guys don't know anything. And i vowe never to make that mistake again, let my emotions get the best of me. The only thing is, i wish I didn't let it happen when i met her... Though yes, you will feel this way for some time. But even though some things come to and end, give it some time. If he liked you in the first place, this does not mean he can't like you again for who you are. Just be yourself, because thats probably who he liked in the begining.
- The Date Doctor Robert
2007-01-24 14:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Robinhood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly NORMAL, my dear. While no person has actually 'died' you are just going through a 'normal grieving process' and as time passes you will start to think about him less and to think about 'other, better' things/people more. If you really 'think about' it, you'll realize that you were ONLY TOGETHER TWO MONTHS, and that while you were evidently 'totally in love' with him, he was NOT the same with you, and that you are much 'better off' without him in your life.
Try 'doing something totally different' from anything that the two of you did 'together' ... if you 'usually work with old people' then try 'working with kids' or vice versa. In that 'unusual circumstance, you'll be 'free-er' to be 'whatever it is that you are at the moment' be that happy, sad, introspective ... and give the 'stages of grief' time to pass 'naturally' ... and if you need it, there are books on 'the stages of grief' that will help you even if you haven't suffered the 'body death' of an 'actual person' because you'll be able to 'see' what stage you're going through, and how many 'stages' are left. And HANG IN THERE, because THE BEST IS 'YET TO COME!'
2007-01-24 14:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will, but it will take time. I am going through the same thing my boyfriend broke up with me and it hurts to hear his name, I want to cry when he calls and I feel like I will never be the same. But I know that things happen for a reason, and that I am grateful for having a wonderful experience while it lasted. You will be sad for a while but eventually something else will take the pain away, may it be a new friend, boyfriend or hobby. Find a guy who treats you like a princess and lavish in the attention that he gives even if you don't love him. It will make you feel like your ex is a jerk. Know that he doesn't deserve you and that you can do better!
2007-01-24 14:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lady K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah,totally bin there. and it hurts. his name must be pricking each time. but here i am totally over that issue.you got to keep only one thing in mind that why the hell are you after a guy who doesn't give a damn about you.ya- not a damn. why are you stooping this low when your worth so much more.you're young,smart and beautiful. now the best thing in the world which would work is if he happily caught you flirting with another guy.
and get another guy for a date soon. a nice guy who will value you so much more . forget about him,bring in the new.
p.s. there is no way you should be getting back with him,even if the offer lies open in the future.
2007-01-24 14:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is normal to fall in love with someone after being together for only two months. I don't really understand. Why did he break up with you really? Did you two have sex or something? I don't know what to tell you except that you need to just move on. It was fun while it lasted. You shouldn't be in that much pain seriously.
2007-01-24 14:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have felt like this and im just recoverin.....i broke up with my girl after 2-3 month.... and she was the world to me....and i felt horrible and decided that what i must do is pretty much get bitter towards her.... or find reason why i should be mad at her and reasons i wouldnt want to get back together with her... and then i put myself out there i went out to meet other people.... and i got over her.... granted we are still really close friends but i can go on and not feel the same way about her that i used to......
and i know it hurts but you must put yourself out there and make an effort to get attached to some one else
i hope this helped you out and i hope you get this problem resolve... and i look forward to helping you in the future
A_RON
2007-01-24 14:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Rizzo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts and it sucks. It is normal to feel this way. You need to keep strong. Just know there are plenty of other people out there that would be better! It will take time, but you will get over him!
2007-01-24 14:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if it was true love it will take you awhile to get over him but you will get back to normal. i know its hard but if he is acting like it doesn't hurt him then you have to at least act like that on the outside because you don't want him to see you down!!! just remember the man who makes you cry is not worth your tears and the man that is would never make you cry!!!!
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-24 14:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by soccergal20062000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its so normal, but you cant get over it unless you allow yourself to. it seems like you are holding on to that wonderful feeling that you once had with him because it felt so good. if you tell yourself that you are ready to get over it then you will, but if you keep fussing over him, youll keep feeling the way you do. tell yourself that it is over, hes not coming back, get over it.
2007-01-24 13:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋