2007-01-24 05:44:18 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am getting married in May we just bought a new house and I would rather spend the money on a destination wedding and have the wedding for us where we could relax and enjoy ourselves, but my finace wants to do the wedding for family because he doens't think they will go to a destination wedding.
2007-01-24 06:12:02 · update #1
I honestly used to think that way. I always said that if I ever became engaged that we would do a destination wedding so it would be a lot cheaper. But....I became engaged late last year and quite honestly I want my entire family there at my wedding and that would be impossible with a destination wedding. I want good food, good music, good pictures, I want to look beautiful and I want everyone to remember our wedding. Our wedding is up to $38,000 (which may not be a lot to some but for us it is) but we are going to do it. We did agree to pay everything cash and not put anything on a credit card. I know it will be worth it.
2007-01-24 06:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you've ever planned any party, it can become very expensive very fast. You don't have to spend all the money as others do. Don't fall into the trap of beating the Joneses. Do what you feel is necessary. After speaking with several people for my own wedding, almost everyone was disappointed in the money they spent in decorating the place of the ceremony, because it was so quick and the bride doesn't get to enjoy it.
If you want to downgrade, it's time to be creative and smart. Get family and friends involved instead of spending tons of money on things. As an example, a veil from the store can cost upwards of $100, but if you make your own, it can cost as little as $15 (or less). Also, when you tell people that you're buying things for a wedding, prices shoot up. As an example, the dozen flowers could be $10 regularly, but for a wedding, it's $25. The reason is because the people are so wrapped up in making it perfect, they aren't thinking that it shouldn't cost that much.
2007-01-24 07:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do a destination wedding you get a great vacation and your honeymoon for a very great price. The Dominican is very beautiful and very inexpensive and hassle free. Guests pay there own way and are happy to cause they're getting a vacation out of it. If you go all inclusive you don't even have to worry about paying for food or drinks at the reception and most hotels include a free wedding package with your stay. Sometimes certain tour companies (in canada anyway) give away a free trip after every 16 people that book with the company. We now have 50 people coming so we both have a free trips. Good luck with the planning!
2007-01-24 05:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Cold In Canada 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Great question!!! I've noticed over the past twenty years that the trend in wedding ceremonies is to spend, spend, spend. In fact when I got married 22 years ago, almost every wedding I went to, including my own, just served cake, coffee, punch or champagne, nuts and mints. I'm sure that now days wedding guests would think you were pretty cheap if that was all you served! The average cost of a wedding in the US is over $25,000 and people spend hours and hours planning the event and and start their marriage off thousands of dollars in debt. The problem is that the emphasis is on the party not on the marriage. Sadly, many, many of these elaborate ceremonies are followed a few years later by divorce. I say, and yes I know I sound like old lady, that you would be much better off if you saved your money for a house and spent you time planning for your marriage (pre-marital counseling). The reception will last 4 - 5 hours top, but your marriage should last a lifetime!
2007-01-24 06:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Bee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm getting married in August, and my fiance and I have agreed to have a small wedding to cut down on costs and leave us more money for a house.
One thing you could do to keep both of you happy is to have the destination wedding you want and then have a reception for family and friends when you get back. The reception doesn't have to be a huge affair, just cake and punch and some finger foods, but it will give your families a chance to get together and celebrate your marriage.
2007-01-24 07:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by the reporter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a wedding is something you should both want.
Yes, weddings CAN be costly, but there are creative ways to have a wedding and not go bankrupt.
When I got married, it cost us $10,000 for everything and I mean everything, my dress, tuxes, food, booze, gifts, pictures, cake and accommodations. You could have a wedding at your home with family and then you and your husband can go on your trip and get married on the beach or something. That way you both get what you want.
Remember a good marriage is about compromising.
Have fun!
2007-01-24 06:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by doodles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the amount of money most people spend is a huge waste. I went to a wedding recently and the mother of the bride mentioned that she paid $10 each for the bows that were used to decorate the pews in the church. There were 20 of them. $200 for some stupid bows is ridiculous...I could have made them for her!
Personally I would rather have a simple wedding and have more money for the honeymoon, or a house. I will be getting an inexpensive dress (you're only going to wear it once, unless you are a weirdo) and I will be making the decorations for my wedding.
Besides, weddings are more fun when they are simple and unpretentious.
2007-01-24 06:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by gobanana516 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
a wedding is a celebration of a union between 2 families. There is nothing wrong with organizing a little something inviting loved ones but the way families have taking it now, it's become quite ridiculous. People starts their new marriage with a financial burden beyond stupid, and what for ? to do better than the others.
Sure if you can afford the extravaganza, it's cool it's fun but honestly it's money you could donate to a charity for those who actually need to celebrate with you.
USe that money on a downpayment or vacation times... decorate... pay off debts already existing don't dig a deeper hole for yourself.
Weddings are overrated nowadays it's become a pure business.
2007-01-24 05:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by GuyNextDoor 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's very easy to get wrapped up and carried away in the whole "wedding" thing. Remember, in the US, it's very much an industry, that's getting bigger every day. But I don't think weddings are a waste of money, I think making those vows to each other publicly is very important. And, hopefully it's a once in a lifetime event, although sadly, too many people are viewing marriage as something that you can change as your grow out of it.
2007-01-24 05:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd glady spend that much on a wedding to have incredible memories with my husband, family, and friends!
Now, I did go to one wedding for a former co-worker and it was all me and another co-worker heard about for months on end. We pulled 3 gray hairs out of this girl's head and she was 21 at the time! When the day finally came, I was very upset. After all the months of stressing and crying and money, her wedding lasted literally five minutes. I'm sorry but if I'm gonna pay that kind of money, my wedding is going to be at least 20 to 30 minutes!
2007-01-24 07:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋