If I'd have it my way I would simply ignore this bee-atch, but my work requires me to be in contact communication with her. Everytime I ask her about anything she would tilt her head and look at me as if I'm an insect or something before answering my question without even looking at me!
I need your opinions guys!
2007-01-24 05:44:01 · 17 answers · asked by cristina p 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
BTW, we're both women and I only need to talk to her because we are working on the same project. And no, I don't like her a bit.
2007-01-24 06:00:21 · update #1
Of course, the simplest way to handle it is to call her on it - when she gives you that look say nicely, "Have I done somethig to upset you? You look upset." One of two things will happen - either she will tell you you have upset her somehow and you can settle whatever the disagreement is, or she could be surprised. She may not realize she's doing it! If she answers a question without looking at you, say (again, nicely) "I'm sorry, I didn't hear you? You were talking into your computer monitor..."
Other than that, as a professional, you need to remain courteous and polite. Try to compliment her on an aspect of the project she's done well - "You're amazing with details! This looks great!" or tell her she's a strong writer, whatever. Complimenting her work will show that you don't perceive her as a "threat" in the workplace and you know how to play nice (it will also show your supervisors the exact same thing!).
I don't necessarily agree with asking co-workers if they've had similar experiences. It's not good for a couple reasons: one, dividing the office into "team you" and "team bee-atch" just won't make for a nice working environment (and you will have people who take both sides!!), and two if that piece of office gossip gets back to her, it WILL be distorted, and probably not in your favor - which will just make for a bigger mess!!
Good luck!
2007-01-24 07:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to first remember that your bee-atch co-worker couldn't be that happy within herself, or she wouldn't act like she does.
This woman may just be the kind of person who gets off on annoying or upsetting other people. Don't buy into it. Whatever it takes, you need to learn how to not let this woman get under your skin. She may not be pleasant to work with, but just remember that the bottom line is this woman doesn't pay your salary and really isn't worth spoiling your day. I would feel pity for her more than anything else. It may also help to remind yourself that nothing lasts forever. Before you know it, through just the natural evolution of office personnel changes, working with this woman could be a thing of the past. In the meantime, I would just be professionally polite with her.
2007-01-24 06:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by loveblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be you are over reacting, don't forget that she's new to
the Company and do not want people to think she is the easy-
lay type. Give her a bit of time and then judge her. A friend is
always better than an enemy. Give her the benefit of the doubt,
I have known people like that who turned out to be real friendly
later.
2007-01-24 06:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by CAPTAIN BEAR 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people just aren't very social. People always think I'm snobby or aloof but thats just the way I am... I prefer to keep to myself.
Perhaps you're asking her dumb questions you should be able to handle on your own? That would annoy me.
Nothing you've said makes her snobbish or uppity, just withdrawn, dedicated, and asocial. Doesn't mean she is a bad person. Continue to do your job in a professional manner and keep your contact strictly work. Why can't you handle that?
2007-01-24 06:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may not be the only person in the office that feels as you do. Ask your co-workers if they have had the same experience with her as you. If the answer is "yes" there is power in numbers.
Unify the other staff member in a plan of attack.
Option 1: You may have to approach you boss to inform him/her of the offending officemate's behavior on the staff.
Option 2: Exploit her weakness and use it against her whenever her behavior is inappropriate. Option 2 was very effective in my office when we everyone worked as a team. the offending officemate's behavior has become highly professional.
2007-01-24 06:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well as a woman who works with mostly women I can only tell you what I would do. I would confront her and tell her that she did not have to like you... but for this project she does have to work with you and you feel like she should show you a certain about of respect... and if she as a problem with that maybe you should discuss the matter with your supervisor or team leader what ever the case maybe. I work with several people I do not like personally... but I can however work with them... we all have jobs to do and as long as we do them ... everything will be find. After all you don't have to go home with this person at the end of the day
2007-01-24 06:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by sherrelu36 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the christian answer would be to be professional and courteous to her no matter what. Perhaps she had a rough time getting to where she is and she feels like if she is not that way she may seem weak and replacable.
She also may look away because she doesn't want you to think she is attracted to you so you don't get the wrong idea.
Anyhow, why do you need her approval? Do you like her or something?
2007-01-24 05:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Emperor Insania Says Bye! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call her on it...that might stop her dead in her tracks. Next time she looks at you funny say, "Is there a problem?" And if you feel the need, elaborate on your issues with her crappy attitude. Tell he that you get the feeling that she has a problem with you and that it needs to be resolved so that you can work effectively together.
Or just be a bee-ach right back at her!!! That'll teach her!
2007-01-24 06:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you have no choice but to remain professional and civil, even with people you don't like.
If you felt she was causing a lot more problems for you that went beyond acceptable work ethics, other than just looking at you with a funny expression, you could mention it to management.
2007-01-24 05:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by angelicjolie2000 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
first if she look at you this way ask her directly in assertive way : is there a problem ? or why do you stare at me like that ? or do you want my picture ? don't waist your time and energy in being polite ask directly your question if she takes he time pressure her by saying : I haven't got all day to be stared at will it cause you a lot of pay to open your mouth to give me the information that I want ?
trust me if you're being rude enough with these simple sentences she will be offence because her tactic is to stare at you but if you let her have the top on you with this act she will feel superior
But if you disturb her little act by being rude and directly offencive she won't fell SO proud of her game...
Yet don't let yourself drive into anger be calm and look directly in her eyes will you are being rude...
2007-01-24 06:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Taynha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋