For the past month she hasn't wanted to have sexual relations with me because she said she doesn't like sneeking around behing her moms back and not truthful. How can I tell her that that's normal and she can't always be truthful about these things. But in a nice way! Help please
2007-01-24 05:38:35 · 12 answers · asked by grinter87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can I help her feel comfortable and really help her!
2007-01-24 05:41:23 · update #1
she wants me to talk to her and wants me to basically say it's normal, she asked me, and I tried, but it didn't help. her decision is she wants to have sexual relations, but doesn't want to feel guilty and sneeky. So how can I tell her it's normal
2007-01-24 05:43:27 · update #2
Shes 18, i;m 19, it's not sex, it's just the small stuff, we've been going out for 8 months, and the past month she hasn't wanted too. i told her I respect any decision for not moving to fast. I'm not going to make her doing naything, she wants me to somehow convince her that it's ok, but it's not sex
2007-01-24 05:47:16 · update #3
Most likely, she's using that as an excuse. That didn't bother her so much at the start, did it? Either she's losing interest in you or she's cheating (or both). I'd start considering looking elsewhere. Sorry, guy.
2007-01-24 05:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This isn't about her, it's about you. You're trying to rush things and even if she DOES worry about sneaking around her mom, she's still trying to get you to back off. Unlike guys, girls can't turn their desire on like a water faucet. It takes time and a level of comfort that she's obviously not feeling. Just continue to be a sweet boyfriend and she'll soften... when she's ready!
2007-01-24 05:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Blackadder 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If all you are interested in is having sex with her even if it is against her mom's will, then you are not really looking out for her best interests. She probably feels this inside and is confused and does not know where to go with this. All young girls are told by their mothers "if he really loves you then he would not force you",....what would YOU tell your daughter (if you ever had one) if it was SHE who was being pressured into having sex.?
2007-01-24 05:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I donot know how old are you or what you do for a living. But the best way to ask for sex is get married and live happily ever after
2007-01-24 05:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by anecentric 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't "Tell" her anything.
You respect what she has to say and if you really care about her you'll wait (a week, a month, a year, etc.). whatever it takes.. you'll wait.
2007-01-24 05:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just go to her mom and ask her if it's ok that I stick it to your daughter....she'll like the truthfulness remember to hang a sock on the door just in case
2007-01-24 05:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well maybe yur bad at it!
umm... i hope ot for yur sake maybe u need to give her some time and show that u care!
2007-01-24 05:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by brittany bear! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is she if she is 18 then why should she care what her mom thinks. besides shes got to do it sometime
2007-01-24 05:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by daytona_girl18 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's because she's been getting close to me. Sorry dude.
2007-01-24 05:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by sixmillionways 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if she is sneaking then you two obviously are underage, stop freaking one another and graduate elementary school first
2007-01-24 05:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋