Sometimes my 12 year old son drives me crazy. I'm glad that he talks to me but he talks about for example some new game or what level he's on, I have no interest in it. I feel guilty about not wanting to hear it.
2007-01-24 05:27:15 · 9 answers · asked by seashell 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm glad my son wants to talk to me and share what he thinks is important.
2007-01-24 05:39:29 · update #1
I have a 12 yr old son too. Sometimes the stories can go on and on and on. Just listen to him. Even if you are not interested and even if it drives you nuts. If he catches on that you are not interested in what he has to say he will stop telling you things because he will feel like you don't care. You want him to keep his line of communication open, about all things, and the only way he will continue to trust you and feel comfortable doing so is if you listen to it all. It is just part of being a parent. :)
2007-01-24 06:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ameerah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should not look at the cause but the effect. You don't like hearing about video games, then why not find some common ground, weather it is an art class, little day trips, movies a board game that you can do together. That will give him much desired time with you as well as something else to talk about.
2007-01-24 05:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by smedrik 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling guilty:)
U can still listen to him and experience joy of communication, nomatter the subject, keeping in mind one important thing: he wants to communicate with u! Many parents wish they had that...
It's perfectly normal that u don't share all of his interests and u cannot force urself to start liking computer games all of a sudden, can u:)
Love isn't about sharing EVERYTHING. It's more about accepting ur child with whatever interests he or she has, even if u don't understand them - coz u don't have to. That also has to do with respecting ur child's individuality.
It's about HOW he relates to u , and not WHAT exactly he is telling u.
IMHO
2007-01-24 05:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell my 11 yr old and 8 yr old I dont care for videos games but to tell me 2-3 things they like or hate about one particualr game each day and then I don't want to hear anymore about them until tomorrow. They know I will stop and listen if they do not try to overload me with info and then they go back to their games. To help them learn to respect the fact that I have different intrest I also have them listen to me about something I like or saw or heard or read that day. Sometimes they are oh god mom that is soooo lame other times its oh wow thats cool
2007-01-24 05:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can take a few minutes to pretend you have intrest in it, thats what parents do, you have to think about the fact that the things he talks about are important to him and you can show some intrest in these things, this may be his way of getting to talk to you, he is telling you what he knows, take some time because when he turns 16 he won't want to say 2 words to you!
2007-01-24 05:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the time to listen or one day he might not come to you to talk he will talk to a "friend" and they could talk him into trying his first drink or drug. Being different makes him who he is and wouldn't it be a boring world if we all liked the same things? Get involved with him, just let him talk. If you don't understand let him explain it to you. Try to find common interests with your son.You will be glad you did in the long run. Good luck and God bless you both! :)
2007-01-24 06:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Suel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember I used to talk about video games alomst all the time as a kid to my mother. She never once acted like she hated hearing about what interested me though. It's not till recent that she told me she really can't stand hearing my little brother always going on about the same stuff at home (playstation 3, Wii, Xbox 360). That made me think about how discrete she was with me. She probably didn't really like hearing me droll on and on, but she probably liked to know I had such a good interest in stuff. It's like when I hear about my wife go on and on and on and on about her REALLY boring desk job, I like to hear that she enjoys what she does (but on the inside I'm falling asleep).
2007-01-24 06:11:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly, that's too bad about you. You have a son who needs your love and support no matter what his interests are. GET interested in his life. Ask him to show you his games and ask him to explain it to you. He would love that and then you would understand what he was talking about because you'll relate. Maybe even play with him. He's just begging for you to listen and take part in his life.
2007-01-24 05:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
be lucky he talks to you most boys that age are not my boy is 11 and i have a hard time to enven sit and talk to and i even play some of the video games he does
2007-01-24 06:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by kellly h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋